Santa and Step-Kids - What do you do when the kids are at the other parent's house on Christmas Day?
My boyfriend and I got engaged several months ago. He has a 7 year old daughter with his ex-fiancee (they never married).
My future step-daughter is 7 and believes in Santa.
My SO loves Christmas. I've never met someone who loved Christmas much as him. He loves getting nice gifts for his daughter and getting them all set up in our living room on Christmas Eve night so that his daughter wakes up on Christmas Day and sees her gifts from Santa. He videotapes her every year walking down to see her gifts in the morning. He likes the "big" gifts to come from Santa and the smaller items to come from him and I. This year, we both bought her some nice stuff that will be from Santa.
This year, BM gets to have their daughter on Christmas morning. Well, my SO wants his daughter to have a traditional Christmas of waking up and seeing her gifts from Santa, half-eaten cookies and half-drunk milk, the whole 9 yards. This won't happen this year, as she will be at her mom's house on Christmas morning.
The agreement between him and BM was that the parent who does NOT get the kid on Christmas Eve night/Christmas morning, gets to pick up the kid at 10:00 am.
My suggestion that I gave to SO was that we get everything set up from Santa the night before. Then we pick up his daughter at 10:00 am and bring her back to our house, where she sees her gifts from Santa. I think it makes sense because Santa comes to all of the kids houses on Christmas Eve night, right? Makes sense that Santa would leave some gifts at our house.
My SO didn't like my idea because he says the point of Christmas is to wake up at your house and see your gifts. He doesn't like having her come back from her mom's house and then see more gifts. The whole point is "waking up, walking to the living room and seeing your gifts." Okay, I get the point..haha.
My SO wants to do the whole Christmas reveal either BEFORE or AFTER Christmas Day. He would either want to have his daughter wake up on December 24th or December 26th at our house and see that Santa came with her gifts. I don't really like that idea either because Santa comes around on Christmas Eve, that is the story kids are told. Seems odd to tell his kid that Santa came early or late just for her. My SO wants his kid to still believe in Santa, but won't this idea make her doubt in the wonders of Santa?
What do you guys think? What do your DH and SO's do about Santa when the other parent has the step-kids on Christmas morning?
FYI - last year, BM didn't do a Santa reveal with their daughter at all, since it was my SO's turn to have her on Christmas morning. BM picked up their daughter in the afternoon to spend the rest of the day/night at BM's family, where they opened up regular gifts between each other. There is no chance in hell that SO will give BM the gifts we bought for Santa so that his daughter can see them at BM's house on Christmas morning.