Re SK and phones.
so we went ahead and got the step kids a landline of their own so they can call BM without certain privacy issues becoming a concern that cell phones would cause. today we find out BM bought them a cell phone and she's now telling us their are no restrictions and they can use it whenever and however they wish and we have no right taking it away etc when they are with us. This doesn't sit well with either of us. One: this is our home and we have rules regarding things like cell phones, tablets etc. Two: the kids now have their own landline to talk to her and they don't need to bring the cellphone here. I am pretty sure the only reason she got them a cell phone is because they told her we were getting them their own phone (trying to one up us) and that the reason it a cell phone is so that she can see what goes on here and possibly even track them through GPS ( she still has this need to be 100% in control). Do we have the right to ask the SK to leave the cell phone at their moms since they already have their own phone here? This is what we would both like to request. The kids downloaded Skype onto their tablets they have here without asking us and were skyping their mom who set up an account under a false name. Because downloading any app is not allow without parent permission and monitoring but was still happening a parent control app was installed on them giving up control (they can no longer download apps without our password, they can only play the apps we've approved, and the apps are locked from them being able to use them except during sets times during the day that we say are acceptable). We strongly believe in internet safety and that parents should be monitoring and know what their kids are doing online and who they are talking too especially since all the kids are under 12yrs of age.