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Submitted by etyler on Wed, 03/23/2011 - 4:03am

I mean, I seriously am having a harder time dealing with this woman than I do BM. She will not get off our back about everything, she basically thinks that she is SD's mom. It is so awkward.

When we allowed SD to move with BM because it was a good, positive, healthy thing to do. She freaked out. It has been almost a year and she still mentions it almost daily, cries about it all the time and acts so immature it is unbelievable.

I am not sure if it is that lack of anything good in their lives, as they have nothing really going for them. Mediocre jobs, bad pay, too much debt etc. Every time we try to talk, all she can talk about is Jordyn and frankly, I don't want to hear it. The only one upset in this situation is her. SD is happy, DH and I are happy and everyone is getting a lot more peaceful time than ever before.

SD comes to visit for a week the first part of April. What does she do? Plans a trip to Sea World without telling DH or me about it. SD is not even here for a whole weekend, so she is planning an overnight 12 hour drive trip. When DH says he is not willing to go, she pouts like a baby. So, she is taking SD7 all by herself on this exhausting trip and then we have to send her back on a 4 hour plane ride to go to school the next day.

UGH. When do people learn boundaries!?!

How do you deal with MIL's? I'm tempted to completely disengage because at this point, everything she does is getting under my skin.

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Submitted by MommaXs2 on Wed, 03/23/2011 - 5:01am

I hear ya, etyler. My MIL also oversteps her boundaries on many many occasions. She has learned very quickly where she stands with me though when it comes to BD3....but SD12 on the other hand is a completely different story. Usually I just grin and bear it if it doesn't directly affect me...and if it does I attempt to go through DH to solve the issue...I have found that she responds better to him than me...LoL Smile

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Submitted by SusiQ on Wed, 03/23/2011 - 7:08am

My MIL life complete revolved around SS & SD She would make plans without speaking to either DH or BM. Basically BM just cut her off so DH & I had to deal with it all the time. Finally when BM wanted SS to come live with her, she let MIL back in but as soon as MIL pissed BM off, she completely cut her off. So now as far as I know my MIL doesn't see either SS or SD.
Plus she's never seen DS or DD - When she worked with BM to convince SS to go live with her, DH & I totally cut her off.

You have such a short visitation, I would tell MIL too bad so sad, no SeaWorld.

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Submitted by briarmommy on Wed, 03/23/2011 - 7:54am

I'm sorry you have to deal with that my mil is like that to. My husband and his ex had to live with his mom when the got pregnant and had the baby because they were only 19, so my mil had issues letting go. Now she wants to take my ss7 for half of every visit he has up here its crazy he only has every other weekend during the school year and he needs to see his dad. Thiis is not there second chance at having a child why don;t they see that. Tell Your mil no and have a talk with your husband about his child needing him, sometimes the guilt of relizing that will make him stand up to her, not all the time but sometimes