What kids notice
I am a stickler when it comes to wearing a seatbelt in the car. There ARE no exceptions. So I was driving the other day and DH did not have his on (briefly) while we had our two BDs in the car and I was hassling him. He gets out of the car to go into a convenience store and BD9 tells me she knows someone else who doesn't wear a seatbelt: SD20. Oh great. That means DH is letting her ride around in the car with them without her seatbelt on, setting yet another great example for our two BDs. I felt like saying, "Well, if she dies in a car crash, it will be because of her own stupidity." But I didn't. Just a classic example of DH being unable to parent SD20 even enough to get her to wear a seatbelt in front of impressionable kids.
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I'd simply tell SD20 that
I'd simply tell SD20 that unless she's going to wear a seatbelt 100% of the time she's in the car with the younger kids, she's not allowed to drive them anywhere. And let her know that the younger kids will tattle on her if she doesn't wear it! LOL
I should clarify that NEVER,
I should clarify that NEVER, EVER, pigs will fly, will SD20 be allowed to drive my two bios around!
OK, sorry, what I meant is that when DH visits SD20 and takes our two bios, he lets SD20 ride around with HIM without her seatbelt on. And our two BDs see that and wonder.
Got ya. Sorry I
Got ya. Sorry I misunderstood...I'm only halfway through my coffee and it's Monday!
Anyhow, when BD's question why SD20 doesn't wear a seatbelt while driving/riding - you could simply say "Well, it's against the law and she SHOULD be wearing her seatbelt. It's MUCH safer in case of an accident. She'll be sorry when she gets pulled over by the police and has to pay the ticket. Maybe then she'll learn!"
No, I realized after I wrote
No, I realized after I wrote it that it wasn't clear. I envy people who can trust their steps enough to drive their bios around. That will never be the case for us. You are talking about someone (SD20) who has gotten at least 10 parking tickets just because she's lazy and KNOWS she's not supposed to park in a certain area and doesn't care and does it anyway. Someone who "borrow" her grandmother's handicapped tag so she can walk the shortest distance possible. Someone who when she was younger would drape her seatbelt across her so it looked like she was wearing it but not actually buckle it and ride that way for a 10-hour cross-country trip. She has no respect for the law or anybody's authority.
Have you told DH that by
Have you told DH that by allowing his daughter to ride without a seat belt he's setting a poor example for your younger girls?
I get the "What can I do?"
I get the "What can I do?" attitude. He was the same way the entire time SD was growing up. He and I used to have yelling matches over SD's inability to buckle the damn seatbelt. I fought with him (and her) for years before finally giving up in disgust. I'll just make it clear to my two BDs that seatbelts are NOT optional, no matter what they see other people doing. It's sad when you expect the younger ones to set the example/ignore the bad example.
Well when he says "What can I
Well when he says "What can I do?" You can say, "Kick her ass out of the car until she can buckle her seat belt, period". Simple as that honey!
What is it with some people
What is it with some people and seatbelt? My mom is the same way....refuses to wear a seatbelt. I've been in a car with her listening to the car beep at her for 20 minutes and she still won't just put the seatbelt on.
I refuse to drive her anywhere unless she is buckled. We have sat in the driveway not moving for long stretched of time before she gives in and buckled up.
I just don't get it....its not like a seatbelt is that horrendous.
I just wouldn't let the bios
I just wouldn't let the bios go with dh to visit sd.
Maybe dh doesn't say anything to her because she's a grown woman living with her bf, or at least not living under his/your roof anymore, so he feels there's not much he can do about it.
She's 20-he can't make her do
She's 20-he can't make her do it now. He should have taught her that a long, long time before. It's too late now.
Teach your kids to always take care of their own safety, and SD? Well at 20 she knows better. If she chooses to be a moron, that's on her.
In my state, if the
In my state, if the passengers don't wear a seat-belt, the driver can be pulled over and ticketed. The passenger not wearing a seat-belt will also get a ticket. I believe to the tune of $150 - $500 each.
It's not just SD20 who's at
It's not just SD20 who's at risk in a crash... her being loose in the vehicle means she has the potential to kill any of the occupants. I would put my foot down and not allow them in the car with anybody who refuses to wear a seat belt http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PU3Gd0RjDr0
SD16 refuses to wear a seat
SD16 refuses to wear a seat belt in the car. (Mostly b/c she is so chubby, it hardly fits). I will not drive her anywhere unless she has it on.
She tries every single time we get in the car to slip by. When I refuse to drive until I hear it click, she tries taking the shoulder belt off, or quietly unhooking it all together.
It doesn't work. I have been in a terrible crash before, I KNOW that seat belts save lives. I do not want to be the responsible party if she is injured in a crash.
Oh, the theatrics we went
Oh, the theatrics we went through with SD from the time DH and I married when she was 8 until I threw in the towel at about age 11! She would just not buckle it, until you turned on the pressure. Then she would pull it across her body but now buckle it. Then she would buckle it but quietly unbuckle it. Then she would buckle it but pull it WAY loose so there was no point in wearing it and she would probably be hurt worse in an accident than if she wasn't wearing it. Then she would pull it loose but tuck the loose stuff up next to her leg where we couldn't see. Then she would pull it across her body and place the buckle so that it looked like it was buckled but actually wasn't. Then she would buckle it but put the shoulder strap behind her or under her arm. It literally went on and on and on. SO MUCH FUN! In fact, eventually she ruined the belt on that side of the car with her antics.