Waiting to see if SD21 even realizes it's DH's birthday

So DH birthday is today. Our two BDs woke him up and sang happy birthday song to him. I made him breakfast in bed. He works tonight so kids and I will make him a cake, then we are officially celebrating tomorrow.

I am waiting to see if SD even pulls her head out of her as* long enough to realize today is his birthday and actually acknowledge it. She hasn't in the past, I keep expecting her to grow up just a bit. We'll see.

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What a $hitty BM you must

What a $hitty BM you must have. I always remind my DD11 to call her dad on his bday and father's day - and any other day that is big for him (example: recent award he received). That's how I teach my kid *not* to be a selfish, self-entitled spoiled brat. Remind her to think of others on their special days. And hopefully one day she'll do it on her own.

Yeah, she's bitter to the nth

Yeah, she's bitter to the nth degree. Before SD "aged out" of our house by going to live with BM (her choice) at age 15, I would take her to get a present for her dad. And DH would always remind her of upcoming special events on both sides of the family. But she doesn't care enough to remember other people's special days because then it is not all about her. What makes it even worse is that DH's birthday is shortly after hers and in the same month, so it is not that hard to remember. But she is 21 now and evidently perpetually 5 years old in this regard.

^^^^^Exactly same thing I

^^^^^Exactly same thing I do.^^^^^^^^

My BS16 never remembers his Dad's birthday but I make sure he calls him. I also make sure he calls his dad on Father's Day and on any other special day.
My exH isn't even involved with our son but at least I think it is the right thing to do.

That's EXACTLY what happens.

That's EXACTLY what happens. Tonight he will be super grumpy and negative, despite all the good things the kids and I have done for him, and I will know why. It happens every year. I would care less if it didn't rebound back on us when SD21 lets him down yet again.

Even though SD21 was living

Even though SD21 was living with us and mooching off of us for months when her dad's birthday came around last year, she couldn't be bothered to be here. There was a HUGE party that she just HAD to be seen at a few towns over. She rants and raves about how important "Dadddeeee" is to her, and how he's not the "Dadddeeee" he used to be before me. Things have been rocky with his entire family, to say the least, but I invited ALL of them here, cooked a HUGE meal, and surprised him when he got home from work. His reaction to SD21 not being here? "It's okay, she has her own life. If it doesn't upset me, it shouldn't upset you."

And this was only a month after we all (my three bios included, and his other two girls) went to FIL's church (also a surprise for FIL) on Father's Day. He's an elder in the church, and we knew that would be special to have the entire family there. SD21 was hungover at some guy's house with a someone she just started dating that week, and would not wake up or bother to go with us, even though she knew our plans. AND she was wearing the ONLY strapless bra that I owned, and most of my church clothes are spaghetti straps. I ended up wearing a dress that really didn't fit well from a few summers ago. Ugh.

Damn, normally on Mother's Day or Father's Day, my ex and I not only make sure that our children do something for each other, we also thank each other for being good parents and giving us the greatest gifts in the world. On his birthday, last year, I helped BD11 make him his favorite meal. (She wanted to do that, I'm not actually THAT kind....lol.) But I DO encourage a good relationship between my kids and their father. Every kid NEEDS a mother and father, and I do it because I LOVE my children. Hell, I even remind them of my ex-MIL and ex-FIL b-days, and I'd just as soon spit in their face than look at them.