Dropping the ball
I was reading up on an issue that DH and I are continuing to experience. Life is full of responsibilities. As kids, people try and teach their kids to deal with responsibilities (at least, those parents who truly parent.) As kids, when you mess up, your parents should be there to redirect you and encourage you (positive reinforcement) and motivate you (consequences) when needed.
But what about when you are an adult? We are having some major issues with BM and her lack of effort. I realize they are divorced, and there's no obligation to DH. I wish she would realize that too (but that's another blog). She claims she WANTS to do X, Y, and Z. When left to do X, Y, and Z, DH's phone gets blown up, demanding information "he" should have given, putting the kids in the middle, complaining about what Y requires, or it simply doesn't get done and it falls back in our laps to deal with when the kids return.
DH doesn't care about BM. If it didn't affect the kids, DH would say screw it. How do you deal with the fall out from similar situation? How did you build up your apathy?