Bring on the summer
Last summer BM threw a fit about my partner getting the full 6 weeks visitation. This year she can’t seem to get rid of them quickly enough.
I’m a little worried honestly. BM is talking about spend the summer with her father who she already lives within walking distance of. I’m worried that she may be losing her place. Honestly this has been a concern of ours for a while. She moved in with the last guy she hocked up with but then he moved out. It’s a nice place, at least 3 bedrooms, big yard, good neighborhood….. And somehow she’s paying for it and a new car on less than what I make alone? We can barely maintain a two bedroom apartment without car payments. By no means do I want her to lose the place but she’s burning through money much faster then she can be earning it. She makes low enough that the kids are getting free lunch and insurance so again… it’s not adding up?
Then again she also used the man as free child care so she can go party and prevent SO from seeing the kids. She may just be saying the kids will be with him this summer. However, that’s a problem too. The man’s health is getting much worse. He should have been placed in a home last year but doing that meant they’d lose his home and the free babysitter. Anyways with his health getting worse he’s starting to refuse to keep the little one because he can’t control the child.
Anyways here my worry. I feel that once grandpa puts his foot down BM will go ahead and let SO keep them more. As much as she likes to punish him she enjoys partying more.
Don’t get me wrong I truly love having the children but they cost. If we have them for two weeks SO’s child support gets reduced but I can see her leaving them with us for over a week but less than two so she can still get her full pay check.
I also see her trying to demand SO handle all the driving since she’s “offering” him more time.
I don’t want to say the kids can’t stay but we’re working really hard to get ourselves set up to move soon. Driving the kids back and forth cost quite a chunk of money. Keeping them more than every other weekend raises all of our bills. I mean it may not seem like much but it’s double the laundry and showers, extra electricity for their bedroom which is closed when they aren’t with us and the biggest cost is food.
I don’t really know if there is anything we can do. I won’t tell him we can’t keep them. I want them. I know if we have them more and keep the records it will also help us in the future. It’s just going to hurt in the short run. UGH.