Well it’s official. The family home is being put into SO’s name. The only thing that worries me is apparently there’s another sick family member. This is the 5 one in less than a year and his mom is still reeling from the last one. I’m really worried about her mental health.
She plans to at least temporally move closer to her other child. Right now she’s claiming she will come back but SO is pretty sure that’s not true. Once she gets established she’ll most likely only come back to get the stuff she wants.
I’m still worried finically though. The house is really nice. Both kids will be able to have their own rooms and it’s in great condition. Sure we’ll have taxes and certain bills will be much more but we won’t have rent. The thing is both of us will have to take pay cuts to move. I REALLY don’t want to the same type of job because the only location there is privet / personal insurance pay which tends to be very unstable. I already know they do reduced hours near holidays. SO MIGHT be able to transfer jobs but he might have to take a lower position for at least a while. I COULD commute but it’s an hour each way and I already struggle getting up as early as I do. I could stay at my mom’s from time to time but then what’s the point of moving.
I’m also worried how BM would react if we did suddenly live less than 5 minutes away. I’m worried she’d feel threatened because right now the distance is the excuse to the kids for not getting to see their dad as often. The oldest has already said multiple time she wants to spend equal time at both homes. BM doesn’t respond well to changes in her own life I have no clue if she’d handle us moving.