The Big Trip (on the pathway to disengagement there are many potholes)
Ok, so if you have read my blogs, you know that I am TRYING to disengage. Trying very hard to not care, not talk about things, not be involved in a "parental role" with SD15. And even now, I am reliving all the nasty texts from Toxic Troll regarding SD15 Backstabber/Munchkin's feelings towards me...all the negative crap revolving around skid.
Well, I have organized a trip for all of us. For a few reasons. Sd hasnt gone on any trips except for day excursions, with us EVER. She indicated she wanted to go, so I figured it would buy me some "golden stars" as well as good behavior.
We are driving (because car rentals are baaaaaad) and its to a place that I went to college and lived for 15 years. And its FUN. One of our 4 days (its a long weekend) will be DH on a day long fishing trip and, myself and SD15 will be together for the day alone-ish. I booked a snorkel tour (its a beach community about 500 miles away) and have made plans to maybe see some friends and do sort of a relaxed driving tour and slop on the beach sort of thing. Not going to put much thought into it. The hotel has a pool.
Im starting to just really hit myself over the head for this. Why should I spend my vacation time with Backstabber/Munchkin? Its 2 days but still. Ill admit theres a part of me that is thinking that it buys some time whereby I DO NOT have to worry about vacationing with Skid. Check it off the list kind of thing. I made it clear to DH that he was paying for her. I will not. He will be giving me $$$ for the day to pay for food and sundries.
Since the planning had begun, shes been on her BEST BEHAVIOR. As the saying goes "butter wouldnt melt in her mouth". Sugary sweet. Friendly even. So we shall see how it goes...its kind of a test so that if it goes wrong I can say "well we now know we cannot all go together on a trip". If it goes sour, well its only 4 days and 4 nights
Toxic Troll will not be able to guilt DH about not taking "his child" anywhere (strangely thats never been her issues, its mainly been about me, so anyway). SHE doesnt take the kid ANYWHERE. Shes been to Hawaii and other resort places, Disneyland.
Yes, the path to disengagment has had some cracks in it. IM making headway. I got an email about high school orientation from SD15 B/M and simply passed it along. She asked what it was about, I said "IDK, just passing along info. Im not involved in this" ... yep. I know. Passive agressive. But with a smily face emoji.
*** Edited to add that part of it is that she overheard us talking about trips and horned in..."I want to go!" and the trip happened to happed on "her" week with us. Hopefully in a few years her job will prevent this from happening because she will be "unavailable"