OT: AITA Neighbor Edition
DH and I moved into our house a little over a month ago. The community we are in is about 75% seniors, 25% young people/families. We met our neighbors next to us during the building phase; husband and wife, mid-60s/early 70s. They live in FL full time, but come to our state for the summers only. After they moved in, they offered us their packing materials, which we gratefully accepted and everything seemed to be great.
A few weeks ago, they asked us how we planned on doing our landscaping, offering to pay us to lay their sod to help offset our cost. We got a few quotes on landscaping, but determined we would do it ourselves due to the high expense. We told the neighbor that we could lay the sod, but didn't feel comfortable installing a sprinkler system for them. The neighbors messaged back letting us know they were going to do their own thing. No problem.
Last week, the neighbor calls asking if we would like to go in halfsies on shrubs along the property line. The shrubs they picked will grow huge and collect bees. There is only 14 feet between houses so we didnt want to landscape there to make the sideyard smaller. DH told me this last night and the neighbor is having landscaping out today. I told DH that he needed to be direct and tell them that we are not interested, but also that he needs to keep them off the property line to ensure they don't encroach on our property at full growth.
We sent this message: "Hi. I spoke to my wife about the shrubs lining the property line and we are going to pass. Please ensure that they do not encroach on our property when fully grown. Thanks!" The neighbor responded: "Weird change of tone. As a reminder, our landscaping crew will be here tomorrow so I suggest you do something with your cable line as we will NOT be responsible for any damages." We responded back letting him know that we didn't intend the message to be harsh, just wanted to make sure we were clear and there wasn't any miscommunication; that they are welcome to do whatever they wish on their property, but we are not fond of the shrubs and ask that they consider full growth of the plants when planting so they dont grow onto our property. He responded "Message Received."
I'm kind of at a loss as far as what to do. We plan to go talk to them to clear the air, but it just seemed like a drastic change. We are the type of neighbors that will shovel snow for you and check on the house while you're out of town. We called the neighbors when they were in FL to let them know their front door was wide open after construction had been through and secured the house for them. I don't get the sudden shift. AITA?