Interesting AITA thread on a step issue
I've edited this a bit for brevity but here's the post:
The woman wrote in her post that she was soon getting married to her fiance and that she has a 16-year-old daughter from a previous partner.
"The bride mentioned that her daughter has recently developed a new hobby of paper origami and came up with the idea of making something for the table favors at the wedding. As a mother, she wanted to let her daughter express her creativity and even bought her the necessary paper for the decorations.
One day, when they were visiting the wedding venue, the bride’s daughter mentioned how she was looking forward to including her decorations at the wedding. The woman and her friends thought it was a great idea, however, the fiance disliked it.
The woman wrote, “When we came back home, he expressed his concerns about what my daughter said, and said that it seemed ‘childish’ and that he wouldn't have it [at] his wedding.”
… When the woman wasn’t home, the man went to talk to her daughter about her paper origami ideas, and things didn’t go well.
The woman wrote, “When I came home today my daughter came crying to me, telling me she's sorry that she's ruining my wedding with her ideas and said she'll pay me back for the paper.” …
Her daughter then explained that her fiance had told her that her ideas were ruining the wedding and that her mother agreed with him. After hearing about everything, the woman was quite angry at her fiance.
She couldn't stay silent when she saw her daughter being hurt and decided that her daughter was more important than her relationship — so she called off her wedding.
She wrote, "I confronted him about everything and told him that he will not shame my daughter and dishonor her amazing work and that we need a break." …
She wrote, “[Daughter] told me that while I was away there were many [instances] where he would tell her that her art was horrible, and said that if I wasn't her mother I'd agree.”
The woman reassured her that it wasn’t true and that she would always support her art. After finding out about everything, the woman felt relieved that she didn’t marry her fiance."
Of course, all the responders defended the mom was for calling off the wedding. Now, as seasoned stepparents, how about we take a stab at the "other side of the story" from the man's perspective? Naturally he is not painted in the best light in this description and I'd hazard a guess that his story is very different from what SD and BM relayed.
I'd be willing to bet the 16 year old daughter's newfound "amazing" origami art probably looked like crap and would be an embarassment to both the girl herself AND the couple. Not to stereotype but most men could care less about table decorations - unless they are absolutely horrid.
Of course mom's friends aren't going to say anything to her about decorations but he could. While I think the guy was wrong to confront teen directly (and allegedly say her mother agreed) he was certainly within his rights to have a vote on whether they should be included on tables or not.
Also, if mom is so adamant about "always supporting [daughter's] art" I can see that turning out to be a let's financially support the starving artist mentality when daughter becomes an adult, which could eventually impact his finances.