I don't complain about my EXH much...
And most women would. But I think because BM is SUUUCCHHH a piece of crap, that it minimizing the crap he pulls so it doesn't get to me as quickly.
EXH is a good and loving dad. We were TERRIBLE together. Knew exactly how to push each others buttons. We dated for 2 years before we married. Were married for 2 years before we had our 2 girls. And divorced when our youngest was 1 year old. We get along. I don't collect child support. Our divorce paperwork, including custody order is 3 pages long. It was easy and neither of us has ever contested anything. Custody literally says "50/50 whatever is reasonable and convenient for both parties". WE have stuck to the same schedule for 12 years. Never an issue. We rotate holidays with ease. We divorced because he was a lazy parent. Left all the work to me, because he was terrible with money, because he drank too much, and was an angry drunk, and we just fought... all of the time. Before our divorce was on paper, I made him go to anger management and have supervised visits with his mom until he got his drinking under control. Took about 8 months before he had regular times with the girls. But he would come to the house and see them several times a week with his mom. It worked.
Lately, I feel like he is falling back in to the rut he was in when I left him. He has gained a lot of weight, the girls talk about beer cans all of the house. His house is a DISASTER. And... to top it all off, he got in an accident 5 years ago and didn't have insurance (bad with money).. it just now caught up with him and his license is suspended. So, now pretty much all of the responsibility of parenting is on me. I have to take them everywhere they need to be, make sure they get to school, softball practice, games.. which most of the time is fine. But it sure would be nice if he took on A LITTLE bit of something and helped. I get so overwhelmed with working, DH being gone all of the time. And being essentially a "single parent" to THREE very active kids. I get burnt out.
I wish he would just take care of his crap and get his license back.