Step kids stink. Literally.
My step kids come stinky. Not visibly dirty. Just stinky. Stinky hair. Bunsy smelling. My kids notice. And often say something.
My kid: "SS13 stinks! He smells like butt!"
Me: "I KNOW! Okay. So he stinks. Don't be rude."
DH: "What's the deal?"
Me: "SS13 is smelly." (blink. blink.) "Um, perhaps the kids should shower when we get home?"
(birds chirping. crickets. frog croaks.)
This has been happening for 2 of the 4 years. It's not the age, SD7 smells too. It's not the house they come from, it's not that type of smell. I'm pretty sure bio mom just has got bored with the kids & doesn't mom them like she should. But DH doesn't make them bathe & I've told him. My kids have told him. They've told the kids too. Ugh. Awkward. I don't want them to feel bad. But... I pick my kids up & literally first thing my 14 knows he's to go to the shower, clean clothes, brush teeth, I have to trim his nails (he has autism, so I have to do more for him) My other kids don't have to shower, as they are sensitive to their hygiene needs, son14 is not. I started this shower thing because he would come stinky & step kids were saying things too. I don't want him to be embarrassed or get angry, so I just tell him "shower time" it's never been an issue. I'm pretty sure he can smell himself. But apparently step kids can't smell their own brew. I've asked DH how bout ya have your kids bathe when they get here, first thing, so my kids don't point out their stinkiness & they don't build resentment, blah blah. That conversation has happened 6-12 times in 2 years. Some times the smell like poop. No joke. He will even mention it, but not ask them to bathe. Wth. I do not feel like I can ask SS13 to shower. SD7 yes I would he fine telling her to bathe. Y'all have smelly step kids!?! Haha. No really, do they smell?