So many of us wonder and get upset when skids do not give to their bio or siblings and get hurt when they ignore us, the step-parent.
When speaking of the weekend bio, either BM or BF. How much does the Disney parenting play apart?!? When you raise your child making them believe their feelings are most important, that your feelings don't matter, that you will be over for them, that they don't have to respect you or your house or your partner... Why is any of us surprised???!?! This kids have not been raised to think of anyone else.
I have had some rsally rediculous examples of this.. DH picking out gifts and saying they are from SGD. SGD refusing to be in a picture on my birthday but begging for a picture of just her and DH. Her refusing to have anything to do with getting DH birthday presents and then acting like I didn't let her. SGD waiting by our bedroom door until DH got up on his birthday (he worked nights at the time) and making sure she dragged him to the balloons I got him, telling him they were for him. SGD pulling the girl from class all the way up to seating at a performance just to only introduce DH and pretend she doesn't know me or my bios.
Isn't it all just part of the continued game the skids play?!?! Oh, I feel sooo uncomfortable asking SM/SD to take me. Or the other side were they have just not been raised to care about others, it's all about them so why would they be different one day a year?? Or two or three if we include Father's Day and birthdays.
This behavior is only a symptom of the problem.