Payday is yesterday. I have a torn shoulder. Me not feeling up to cooking last night means take out. DH is not hungry. Bullshit!!!!!
He comes home from going to pick up for to tell me he is going out to dinner with his bio. Ok not really an issue. She comes to pick him up asks if we want to make it a family thing and me and my bios go. DH responded with "she's not feeling good". I responded after with im not invited. SD25 and I are close. She looked at me weird and was like are you sure?!?! I told her go ahead, it's not that big of deal.
Background really quick... DH has a HUGE spending problem and the last 2 christmas/ birthdays he has bought everything. I have told him I would like to be able to get the kids something too. I would like us to do most of it together. I don't need him attached at my hip.
Today I ordered BS and DD boots for Christmas. I was showing DH and he made the comment the last couple of pairs I got BS torn apart. I told him all about their warranty. He gets up storms off going on about how I have a double standard he is the only one not allowed to spend.
I told him there is a big difference between "all and one each"
Our bills are paid, what is the issue?!?!
He went on about is it "us" or him and I??? Are we a "we" or not??
So I asked him are we?? On every subject?? Is there a limit??? Because we made plans Friday and he informed me Thirsday night he made other plans on top of it. I was informed about him going out last night after the plans were made. Are we a "we" always??? Or only when it suits him? He spent $50 last night, and me buying each kid a pair of boots is a crime today?!?!? I'm apparently not reasonable and will twisted everything to avoid admitting I'm wrong. I have issues with him spending time with "his daughters" so he will let them know he isn't allowed too. Went on about how "he forgot to check with mommy last night, so of course he is wrong"
Complete and utter bullshit. If I have to run each individual Christmas present by him and everything I buy my kids, then guess what the reverse is true and he should have ran last nights dinner by me.
If "we" are a "we" and have to do it all together and run every purchase by each other then it goes both ways.

And apparently I brought this on myself by asking him to stop spending hundreds on Amazon before I even wake up on Payday.