SD17's graduation from high school is coming up, and I so need your input.
SD17 is graduating in May. She also is turning 18 in May. For those of you who have followed my upside down inside out turmoil over her, over H and SD17's tag team behaviour, this will be just another example of how me and mine don't count, but H & SD17 are the "chosen ones" in this "family".
When it came time for SD17 to send out announcements, H volunteered me to send hers out. Which I promptly refused to do. SD17 asked me for the address of H's sisters, which I gave her. She had H give me one for my parents.
This is already turning into the circus, for SD17. H and BM are renting the County Club for her after graduation party. Which I argued, simply due to the fact that our finances are currently in the dump, and I am very worried about just making ends meet.
Then this weekend, SD17 turns to H and asks "Have you talked to Mom about food for the party?" What? H never bothered to tell me we were feeding everyone too!
But the real issue is my son. And here's where I desperately need your opinions. I've watched my son be treated as tho he is not as "important" as H and his kids ever since we got married. Yes, he is grown, and it's not financial needs I'm talking about here.
On SD17's birthday last May, my son helped install the radio H bought her for a bd present (tho she was already getting my car). My son was here for Thanksgiving. He and I were the ones who did all the clean up from the meal, while H and his darlings played games. Christmas my son, who used to live in this house, had to get a motel room, because H insisted his darling could not drive 30 miles home that night. (Tho H had to leave for work at 7:00 pm, so he wasn't even here). That's the picture.
So, the issue is-SD17 did not send my son a graduation announcement (invitation). Neither she nor H asked for his address, there was absolutely no mention whatsoever of my son.
While H and I are on the rocks, and I am looking to become financially independent of him, the fact remains that my BS is still SD17's stepbrother. The fact is he has always been polite to H and his kids. And it's not like she's never been around him. H and I dated for alot of years-one year, when my bs was still in school, he spent Christmas day putting together a race car track H (then bf) bought his kids for Christmas. My BS helped H (then bf) paint H's mother's house. So SD17 has known my BS for many years.
What I don't want to do is mention it to H yet. What I feel like doing, in my heart of hearts, is wait until the week before graduation, and tell him I will not be attending. Because if my son is not good enough to go, neither am I.