I stayed completely away from the Graduation fiasco
I don't think H believed me when I told him I wasn't going. But I stayed home, and we did not even discuss how it went. All I know about it is that SD17 received a couple of thousand in gifts; H's sisters, unlike H, are wealthy.
But the weekend was horrid. H did basically nothing around here (and he was home for 4 1/2 days). Friday H played cards. Sat. H played cards and drove 120 miles to get SD17's wedding cake for graduation (and yes, it was all decorated up, minus the topper). Sun. H changed oil in the Jeep so he could drive to graduation, went to graduation. Monday I was at work. Have no idea what he did, but it sure wasn't work around here.
So my Dad got on him. Because H spilled some oil in the garage. And I think Dad was upset because I was out mowing while H was playing cards. H's response to me was "I'm 44 y.o. and I'll be damned if I have to take attitude from him" :jawdrop: And yet he's expected me to take SD17's attitude for the past year.
H also informed me that he works hard during the week (not so much-right now they are mostly sitting around the show, because there is no work), and he will not come home on days off and work here. When I reminded him that we live rent free in the house, and it's our responsiblitie to do maintenance, H told me he's "not going to live like that".
Horrid weekend. Just horrid. And to know his attitude is that he has no responsiblites around here is shameful. He is throwing my parents generosity in their face-how can anyone do that to a 79 y.o. stroke victim and his disabled wife? This man has no conscience whatsoever.
Now Dad is wanting to know when I'm getting H out of here. Tough times. Again, I am so ashamed of the man I married.
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Oh no Bewtitched!
:jawdrop:
What the Hell is wrong with DH! Has he always been like this or is he pissed about you not going to graduation thing??
He's been like this ever since we got married
"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere
The thing he did last year was paint a room in the basement for SD14. He did start a project for his "hot tub" which my parents then told us they did not want here...so that p.o.'d H and he just left the mess out back...all summer long. That's it. He doesn't mow, doesn't take out the trash, doesn't paint the outside of the house (badly needed)...all he does is change oil in the vehicles and play cards. And cook when SD14 is here, because I won't.
WHAT?? WOW!
What is his problem? My DH would do our house and your parents house! Rent free too you have to be kidding me!!
"And this too shall pass..."
Didn't you get a job? When
Didn't you get a job? When are you going to tell H to leave? Free rent and your money from new job, should now give you freedom to tell him to get out????
BW - this is kind of funny/ironic -
""I'm 44 y.o. and I'll be damned if I have to take attitude from him". But at 44 he's willing to take a rent-free home from your Dad, huh??? Tell your H when he starts actually PAYING his own way, or showing the teeniest bit of appreciation that your parents have provided him with a home, then he won't have to take the attitude.
As for the graduation party - why would you go??? So H, his exW, and the SD can take pot shots at you all night?? I don't think so...
Two words for your H - "BITE ME".
Oh yeah. It'll be bite me when I talk to an attorney next week
"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere
Tho the job is only part time-I'll have nearly 30 hours this week. It'll be tough making it on that, but not nearly so tuff as what goes on around here with H.
You can DO IT Bewitched!
"And this too shall pass..."
Before we married, when H said he would like us to live here
"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere
and I asked my parents what they wanted, they were great with it. H made promises. Oh, he was going to fix the place up. We'd take care of everything! Empty promises, just like the promise that his finances were all straightened up.
It's been a year, and he has painted one room (for his D), helped me partially paint the living room (my bs finished the ceilings), and bought some furniture. Oh. And cooked occassionally. That's it. In a year. I do the mowing, I do the fertilizing, I clean, I do laundry, I do my parents laundry, try to keep their house clean, and work. And stay home doing these chores while H plays cards on what little money is left from his garnished paycheck.
Sweet, huh?
Oh Hell no! Send him packing! What do you need him for??
He is a leech. sorry but it is what it is! you can do bad by yourself! He supposed to be bringing you up not down!
He is reaping all the benefits of this marriage and what are you getting?? A headache!
"And this too shall pass..."
BW
For all you do, better alone than in bad company!!!
One can only hope!
We'll all cheer
When you give H the boot. He is an unbelievable waste of skin. What does he contribute besides his "good looks"?
was this
the graduation with the "open bar"
Yea...DH is a loser in my book (from what you say)..and I liked the post earlier that said ""I'm 44 y.o. and I'll be damned if I have to take attitude from him". But at 44 he's willing to take a rent-free home from your Dad, huh?
Free rent..gheesh..do you want a roommate?
"He grew up in my heart, not my belly"
BW
Kudos to you for not attending the graduation. DH and SD do not deserve your love and support. When you're finally ready to give DH the boot, I will be cheering you on
There is a song about this D-I-V-O-R-C-E!!!!
BW,
You got the job, now change the locks. Let us know how the meeting with the attorney goes next week.
I am truly sorry for you that you have to deal with this asshole and his spawn.
Best regards,