Saturday Night’s the Night Alright - Vent
The oldest skid in my life has been an on and off juvenile delinquent in her behavior. Minor stuff: sneaking off with boys at 12, getting busted for vaping at her private school, and last May got busted (at the then public school she went to after leaving her private school) for bringing alcohol to school. She has also been busted here with vaping stuff but assured her dad she was done and knew better.
You know the drill. She felt so bad and went into counseling. My SO in fact started paying the counselor separately because her POS mom refused to have anything to do with counseling for her. So we truly thought she had turned a new leaf since the start of the summer.
But you know. We are in skidland where things are different.
I had a stash of airplane bottle sized liquor that I won as part of a Christmas game at work. There were originally 13 bottles. I had drank two of them literally last night. I knew exactly how many there were.
The skids are over this weekend, and I was going to have an after dinner cocktail as the skids were all busy.
Hands up if you know where this is going.
There were 8 bottles. Missing were a green apple vodka, and 2 grapefruit vodkas. Again, because I had just looked at them last night so knew what was there.
Told SO, who dumped her bag while she was busy (ironically her new boyfriend was over for dinner/to meet us). Sure enough. Two full bottles and one empty.
MFer. I am so done trusting or caring what this skid does. All the Daddee talking to's have done zippo as al of us here know.
So disappointed.
I am at least grateful you all are here and know what it's like.
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We have a fridge in our
We have a fridge in our garage where we keep drinks, hard and soft.
When Spawn was living with us I went to get some vodka out of the freezer and all the different flavored ones were down to nothing.
Ugh! I hear you so much with
Ugh! I hear you so much with stealing stuff. My SD23 used to take alcohol, amongst many other things, from us. In the end we took to storing it in our cellar which we kept locked and hid the key in a curry powder tin in the kitchen!
What is it with these kids!
Regarding flavors, the soon to be an adult thief took the green apple mini vodka! I was trying to think up a good drink mix for that! Why didn't she take the stuff I didn't like? *unknw*
But seriously. I had been keeping all the open liquor locked up in our office since her stealing beer from her mother, even before she got busted taking some to school in May.
Of course, locking it up was overkill according to my SO. She wouldn't do that here, to him. I'd even mentioned taking the mini bottles up when the skids came around Christmas. But of course there was no need.
This all sucks because now I'm 2nd guessing things. Its making me think she stole some Valium from me in the spring. Typically I never have anything like that. But I was going to Asia for a work trip, and got two pills to help with a 13 hour leg of an 18 hour trip. I had it out with some other things I wanted to make sure I had, like my passport and other basic travel stuff.
In the end, I got a very bad respiratory infection and my doctor wouldn't let me fly. But when I went to put the stuff away, the Valium was gone. The skids has been over several times. But I was told I must have accidentally thrown it away. Which made no sense really, but I had been so sick I figured it could have happened while I was sick and not thinking clearly.
And of course, SO notified BM by text about last nights alchohol theft. So she went bonkers demanding he call immediately. He knew better than to talk to her, so instead she screamed at her daughter over the phone. So now after a relatively quiet break from the crazy one, she will be all riled up again.
Ultimately, I'm starting to wonder if this young woman has an addictive personality. I didn't drink until I was of legal age, never stealing drinks or anything else. But she's been caught drinking since she was 12. At least once a year. Since she got busted at school, she's subject to random drug and alcohol tests. Even that apparently isn't a deterrent.
Anyway, sorry you have both experiences this. It's just so disheartening. She can be a pleasant and charming girl. But more and more that just seems like a facade.
Young drinkers like the sweet
Young drinkers like the sweet stuff, that's why she took the ones she took.
I started drinking around 15 (the drinking age was 18 then) but I never would have stolen from my parents, because I knew I'd have hell to pay. Yours knows her father will do nothing at all, and might even defend her.
At least BM was upset about it. Did your SO give her any consequences?
Oh he does and has
Right now, he's still processing. Doing the typical things: taking her phone, not taking her to parties on his time, no door at one point, haven't worked. Nor has being taken to the police station and being drug tested, losing right to drive, etc. has done a thing apparently. She's also in counseling and medication for depression.
And trust me. Her mom isn't a help. She's a stage four nut job. Her screaming and freaking out is also what she does when a sandwich order isn't correct. It's her normal operating mode. She enforces zero consequences other than screaming. Even her parents know she's nuts and have apologized to me for her behavior toward me when she spent time stalking me.
Gotcha. Well, at least your
Gotcha. Well, at least your DH gives consequences, I mistook him for the Disney Dad type. Yep, time to get a locking cabinet for any alcohol/medications that can be abused.