So very delusional
Last weekend before the oldest Sd heads off to college, where she will be promptly quarantined for 2 weeks in her dorm room.
Last visit with her at our house (not happy about it because there is still a pandemic on). Of course, fiancé has been trying to plan a fun!!! Weekend!!! For his baby's last time before going severa hours away. Most plans haven't been working out as anything remotely involving social distancing have been booked for weeks. But there are plans to go to the beach one day.
Oldest SD then asked her dad to take her shopping. Of course, he is THRILLED!!! she asked to do this because 'obviously she wants to spend time with just me!!!!' he tells me, so full of glee that his daughter wants special time with just him.
Not his wallet of course! That was an outrageous, just horrible thing for me to blurt out.
No worries as our finances are separate. But honestly? How delusional can one person be?
Glad this is over with her for hopefully a long time!
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What is it
With them that they are so belligerently ignorant regarding their children's behavior?
DH has been trying to get YSS and OSS to come over and we haven't seen OSS in months. Kid didn't even come to get his bday present. DH ran it to him. And I'm sure if either or both of them are coming that DH will tie himself in knots getting food they like, making sure it's a happy time, and that their appearance here means they love him.
Really makes you wonder, with how they also make us out as the bad guys, what they think love is.
Sigh
DH went grocery shopping this morning. And he got no confirmation from the SSs that they are coming and they haven't shown up yet. So now we have all this extra food.
DHs are very reluctant to
DHs are very reluctant to accept that they are viewed simply as the "Walking Wallet" - sadly though it is true in a lot of cases.
Down thru the generations
This reminds me of something that happened to us. SD58, a grasping person, has a daughter, SGD. When SGD started out-of'town college, DH, I, SD and SGD were at a local store which, just coincidentally, sold a brand of expensive purses. SGD gushed about how much she loved them, how everybody at her school has one, etc. I thought, what a ploy but acted like it wasn't registering. I wondered if DH would bite but when he saw the price tags, even he backed away. Result: no purse.
Then we went out to dinner. As we were waiting to be seated, SGD told us the sad story of a sorority she was interested in and what it would cost. I could see DH on the verge but we were then seated for dinner and it didnt come up again.
SGD was a cash-strapped student but graduated from a local school with the sensible guidance of her dad. She is now a teacher. This whole episode was SD using SGD to manipulate DH, her way of providing for her kids. SGD should have known better, she has improved since then. SD will still use DH whenever possible.
How frequently will SD be
How frequently will SD be coming home from college? A bunch of drunk college kids losing their senses around each other spells C O V I D. And Thanksgiving will be here before we know it.
But looking at it from the other side, has your SO been paying for her college and necessities prior to the school year? Maybe she just viewed it as the annual ritual? I helped my kids while they were in school, but the National Bank of Mom closed when they finished.
My DH was not affected since I had saved up for college prior to my meeting him. But yeah, keep your finances separate while there are SDs still to be provided for.