Picking and choosing
For the most part, I would consider myself mostly disengaged. The only 2 things I engage myself with are things that do/will affect my life: SS's chores and when SS has homework due. I chose to be involved with those because I am not the household maid and I want SS to finish school when he turns 19 (he failed grade 1 while living with BM).
DH checks over ss's homework because he said he was done. DH tells SS that he's not done, he's supposed to color in the map. It's #3 out the three things he was supposed to do. SS is CONSTANTLY doing this!!! He will pick and choose what he will do in his homework assignments. Well, now he's starting to do that with his chores!!! And it's starting to piss me off. He has a chore chart of 2 chores / day. Well, Monday he's told to do his chores, he "accidentally" did 1/2 of Sunday's chores (the easy one of take out the trash) and then does the easy one of Monday and calls it good. I told him Tuesday to finish the chore he missed on Monday (clean his bathroom) and to do his Tuesday's chores. He does his Tuesday chores and doesn't touch his bathroom. I told DH that I've asked SS twice now, to clean the damn bathroom and he's not going to like it if I have to ask a THIRD time! DH goes and tells SS to finish his chores and to clean his bathroom. Well, today I go into the bathroom and the only this he touched was the bathroom sink and counter!!!! The mirror is gross, the garbage is full, there's towels and laundry on the floor, and don't even get me started on the tub and toilet!!! So, I changed the wifi password. He will come home and immediately notice that it's not working. I won't give it to him until the bathroom is CLEAN!!!! How is this ok?!? I get he's a teen but my goodness! It's like we have to walk him through everything step by step!!!! Thanks for letting me vent