Manipulative 16 yo Step Daughter
My SD came out to us as a lesbian around 8 months ago. I have no issue with it, have gay friends and have been involved in the queer scene my entire life as a hairstylist. We had a fight a few months ago over me taking to her sister about her sexuality and I apologized for it. I questioned if it was a phase. Never said I was against it, she is 16 and has a lot to figure out. However, now, SD likes to say I have a problem with it and brings it up as "her truth" every time I give her shit for something she has done or lied about, which in turn makes me upset and I flip out and yell and then my husband is upset at me. She pushes all my buttons on purpose, and for what reason, I don't know. I guess she genuinely feels I don't accept her even though I do and have expressed that both verbally and by way of inviting her GF over. I should add her and her sisters live with us full time and their BM is not in the picture at all. I feel like because they are stepchildren, even though I am their full time mom, I have to walk on eggshells. I am at a loss as to what to do about her. I want her to just be 18 and move out, I can't deal with this anymore. It's going to cost me my marriage.