OT - Crying wife turns DH on?!? WTF dude
I swear some men don't think before they act, are they really as clueless as they come off?
I had a very close friend pass away a week ago and I have been pretty much an emotional wreck ever since. I've known this guy since 2002 when I was pregnant with my daughter. I feel like I'm slowly going crazy- cry at the drop of a hat, still beating myself up over it a little (the what ifs/coulda/shoulda's going through my head), and haven't slept very well at all.
Last night I couldn't shut my brain off and started crying (again) while DH and I were getting ready for bed. Him being the sweet adoring hubby that he is, held me and let me cry, talked to me, and didn't make me feel guilty for "crying over another man". After I was able to calm myself down a bit, DH completely shocked me and I just about lost it on him...he started trying to kiss and fondle me. Seriously? Here I am, completely upset and he thinks it's a good time for a make out session? A grieving wife turns him on???
I was shocked, didn't know what to say. I pushed his hands off me and got up to blow my nose...came back to bed and still didn't know what to say. Thankfully he had already rolled over so I didn't have to say anything. I'm still so shocked today and don't know how to bring it up to him /sigh
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I'm sure you're right...men
I'm sure you're right...men think sex 24/7 and I'm guessing he was just trying to express how much he loves me. Still...ugh
I had this happen to me once
I had this happen to me once with an ex bf. i had just found out my cousin whom I considered more of my brother had just commented suicide. The thoughts and feelings that went through my head at that moment was indescribable. Are you freaking kidding me! In the end I summed it up to him thinking sex would make me feel better. Wasn't too much longer after that day that I figured out he was just a jerk who only cared about himself.
Hugs to you during this difficult time.
Men are stupid. The End.
Men are stupid. The End. Oops did I say that out loud? lol jk
I am sorry about your friend. My DH often gets turned on when I am anything but. I am sure it is to show you his love and support.
DH gets really, really turned
DH gets really, really turned on--and this is a weird one--when he tickles me and I tell him to stop but he keeps tickling me.
I hate getting tickled. HATE IT. He knows it. But for some reason it gets him from 6 to midnight if you know what I mean.
Maybe it's a dominance thing. Who knows. Men are weird.
I'm sorry about your friend.
I'm sorry about your friend. I asked my hubby this exact question when he was like that too. He told me that its hard seeing me hurting and he wants to take the pain away but the touching triggers the sexual urges too. I don't think men can stop the sexual urge from happening when it does but they can control their actions. Personally, I would be upfront and remind him that making out right now is not a good time for you. I would try to NOT make him feel rejected as a man but make it clear that its not proper timing bc of what you are going through. Let him know how he can help you, what he did do right, and ask for it to be left at that while you are grieving. Men are weird like that and need to be trained IMO.
Hugs to you.