You are here

Could use some support

ohiknow's picture

Submitted by ohiknow on Fri, 12/10/2010 - 10:38pm

Feeling a little down today. But I can't seem to shake it. I know I shouldn't let what BM says bring me down, and normally I don't dwell on it, but maybe I'm just in a funk.

I could just use a little support from other SM's (being a future SM myself).

Apparently according to BM I am "terrible to" skids and they "hate" me and "cry because how unhappy they are" with me.

How do you deal?

Comments

tofurkey's picture

Submitted by tofurkey on Sat, 12/11/2010 - 7:56am

Agree! And to the BM's who are "worried that the SM is going to try to be skid's mom" I have this piece of advice: If you don't want to bitch about worrying about this, then how about you don't get pregnant and have a kid with someone you aren't serious with and/or don't plan on being with for the rest of your life? I think that would pretty much take care of "those feelings"

GoodbyeNormaJean's picture

Submitted by GoodbyeNormaJean on Fri, 12/10/2010 - 11:14pm

I encourage her to get her poop in a group so maybe some day she can be the custodial parent and I can get the weekend Disney duty, and we can all be happy.

The pathetic thing about her saying bad things about me is that I do 10 times more than she ever did for SD8. If I'm a shitty parent, what does that make her? Her own kid doesn't want to go to her house.

ddakan's picture

Submitted by ddakan on Sat, 12/11/2010 - 2:54am

hay, i used to get this crap all the time....YOURE NOT MY MOM....

i say, "no and I'm not trying to be, but i am responsible for providing you with a safe place to stay, feed you and look after you while your here"

i must have said that 3000 in the last 10 years.

i wish i could wave my wand and erase those words from your ears. so many hurtful things said to me, and i just can't beat myself up for it anymore.

ITS LIES. my skids just wanted their parents back together, and i am in the way of their dream happening. well guess what skids, i'm not going anywhere.

StillSearching's picture

Submitted by StillSearching on Sat, 12/11/2010 - 7:05am

The BM has tried to tell the kids that I was too young to be important and my BFs daughter hated me for the longest time. I honestly just took it one day at a time, was myself, didn't push anyone's buttons and as time goes on I am more accepting of the facts. I know they are a lot of SMs that don't like to be in the background but it is "each our own." If you know you are a good person and are trying to make it work then screw what BM is saying, odds are she is feeling insecure about herself.