I'm hoping some of you will have some resources to share for dealing with NPD. I know that many of you deal with ex's or bio-moms, but I need to find a support system/message board to talk with others about NPD spouses. 

Everyone here was so wonderful when I was dealing with step issues, so this was the first place I could think of to come. 

My SS22 moved out due to COVID and he realized (i think) that he likes it better not being in our home. SD25 is living states away with her own SO and really is fine now in small doses. I never would have guessed, but she actually texts me now. Again, she's full of drama and high-maintenance, but the distance and little time we spend together makes it easier. 

My BS8 is amazing, but struggles with his emotions. Which brings me to SO. SO had a major heart issue that was diagnosed at the beginning of COVD last year (not COVID related, but other viral infection). He has since retired from his company. However, he's home all of the time. As is my BS8 since we didn't send him to in person school this year.  SO has had issues and I never could pinpoint what the underlying issue was. I thought bipolar, I thought depression, etc etc. I finally stumbled across NPD and it fits to a "T" When I think back on the red flags I should have reacted to. So easily would be cold and distant when threatened. Never wants to discuss when he's behaved terribly, let alone apologize, his occasional rages over a minor incident. Being so worried about how others see things and needing everything to be a certain way. Its all become exausting. A recent incident with my son has made me realize I want out. I'm feeling a lot of regret and a bit of depression for letting this get so far, but I am at the planning stage now. A better mother would probably leave now, but I just feel in my gut its better to wait until BS8 is old enough to hold his own.  I could change my mind though depending on any other issues. I would just like to find a group to talk to about this type of situation. Personal messages are ok too! Thanks for any guidance or resources.