Holiday Visitation Issue?
I'm a new step mom....and honestly have nobody to vent too....thankful for this website....
I have a question about holiday visitation. But here is a tiny bit of background info….
My husband’s ex wife was upset and caused a lot of drama and problems when we first started dating. We are now married and the problems have still continued. It got out of control and to the point it was affecting his son emotionally so we hired an attorney to modify the court orders and develop a parenting plan. The main point was to make things easier for his son. We still have not come to an agreement on some of the parenting plan. The visitation schedule they set up through their divorce is basic. My husband has every other weekend and a few hours during the week. For holidays, it is written out that they are to be alternating. The holiday visitation is written out in pretty good detail…it’s just the basic one that the court system does. My husband has asked her for more time but she has never allowed it. Because of all the drama that has come about, the attorney told my husband to go by the papers for visitation so there are not any issues. Since attorneys have been involved my husband has followed the visitation schedule exactly how it is written in their divorce papers.
Now…..for the holidays. This year, my husband will have Thanksgiving and ½ of Christmas day and she will have Christmas Eve and morning. His ex is demanding that they split the holidays instead of alternate. They have split them in the past. We decided since we are spending Thanksgiving with my family…that lives 2 hours away that we would just alternate holidays and not have him next year. My husband told her that he will be going by what the papers say and she became upset. She said she will be talking to her attorney.
I don’t have a lot of experience with family court and these issues……are we in the wrong for wanting to alternate holidays? That is what they agreed on when they divorced. Is it better to split holidays?
What else could her attorney do but petition to modify the divorce decree....?