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NSMR....Two enter covid quarantine...only 1 leaves

halo1998's picture

MAN FLU.......I'm dealing with a case of man flu.

Obviously both DH and I have covid.  Needless to say we both feel like crap.  However, DH is oh so much worse than I am..(he isn't)...he has no fever, a stuffy nose and a slight cough.  Me on the other hand...running 102 fever, coughing like I've been a smoker for the last 20 years (non-smoker here)...and sporting a nice eczema breakout (it happens when I'm sick due to my body trying to fight off the invaders..unfortunately my body thinks my skin is an invader.

What does DH do...he sees me taking a nap so he goes and naps for 4 FUCKING HOURS.  That leaves me to take care of the dogs who need to go out and have to be fed.  It also leaves me to make dinner and clean up.  Poor widdle DH is TIRED...he needs his sleep.  Oh and Halo can you bring me water...sniff sniff...can you bring me tissues....can you bring me some chips....ARRGGGGGGGGG.....

I have had to hear him sigh every 5 minutes for the last 2 hours...and honestly I can see why women kill their spouses.  DH is certainly on my last every loving nerve.

He than has the nerve to say.  GEE Halo you should get some rest you won't get better if you don't.  Sure..DH I would love to but I don't have a Halo to take care of everything.  Your too busy sitting in your lazy boy chair sighing every 5 minutes.

I know this stems from his momma who loved to baby him when he was sick...BUT I'M NOT HIS MOMMA AND HE AIN'T A KID.  Suck it up there buttercup....we are both sick.

Like I said 2 entered quarantine but only one might leave it 9 days.....I might need bail money y'all.

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Survivingstephell's picture

Having been through this many times (my DH is accident prone that needs surgery) I recommend ignoring him then going scorched earth in his ass if he keeps it up.  If you don't take care of yourself, you could get worse.  As for the dogs split the shifts. Phones have alarms that work really well.  Do not let him turn you into his mother.  It's the one thing I hate about my DH's parenting, his mother taught him very little, especially how not to bug your wife when ill.  Last time my DH was sick he complained I wasn't nice to him anymore.  Yeah dude, I have compassion fatigue from it all.  Be glad I made dinner!!   
 

You have me deepest sympathy 

bananaseedo's picture

I hear ya!  My DH and I both have several serious health issues we navigate.  Lately DH has developed a severe case of neuropathy and we aren't sure why. He's not diabetic (I am) but is taking B12 and folic acid as that was low.  He takes meds for gout and high blood pressure.  We don't know where this neuropathy is coming from but it's super super bad.  Sharp horrific pain in his feet, fingers -numbness being the least of his problems.  Gotta get to the bottom of this because his lack of ability to do much and his constant sighing and complaining and moaning about it  is really getting to me.  And I'm a caregiver by nature but it's been a lot of time between this and his gout issues that have me completely worn the eff out!! 

Wilhelm's picture

A friend of mine went on a cruise and caught covid when it first began. She was dreadfully ill and while he had covid he was not really sick at all. They were both locked in a room at the hospital with windows that could not open. She was about ready to kill him by the time they let him out. He was there about 2 weeks she was in there quite a bit longer.

JRI's picture

Sympathizing with you, Halo.  My DH is a pita when he's sick, too.  Hope you get well soon.

Winterglow's picture

I'm not a very good nurse nor am I very sympathetic to those who suffer from choice. Many, many years ago, DH was home, groaning in bed. I told him to see the doc. "It's not bad enough to see the doc." "If it's bad enough to not go to work, it's bad enough to see the doc," I replied, and with that, I left and went to work and left him to it. Not my problem. The stupid thing was that our doctor at the time actually did house visits! Anyway, that was the last time he did his dying duck number.Well, he tried it again when he got Covid but got sent to be tested (his argument was that it was a public holiday and that nowhere would be open - my resonse "Rubbish! Just get it done!").

halo1998's picture

maybe..but geez as  a kid that chronically sick and still managed to get through school, etc.  I have no time for ...."let me wallow in my misery in bed".  I mean really get up and get your own damn tissues....and it's not good to lay in bed for hours hours.

 

Dying Duck...I have to remember that one.  I love that...

Dc3sc2's picture

You really should be resting. Never mind doing everything like a pp said split dog shifts and just nap as much as u can. Get take out and ask them to leave it outside your door so you don't have to cook. Please try and rest up as much as possible. Sending good thoughts. 

tog redux's picture

I'm so grateful my DH doesn't get like this. He has a chronic health issue that made him very sick in the past (currently better), so he knows how to deal with illness. 

I'm an excellent nurse but he just wants me to leave him alone when he's sick. On the flip side, he's a terrible nurse, but I don't get sick often anyway. 

On a serious note, see your doctor. COVID is no joke and it can get very much worse with no warning. 

halo1998's picture

just make sure I'm not dead every once in awhile and I'm good.  DH wants someone to hover over him and tend to his every need.

 

So far so good...and so far our Dr wants us to just stay home and monitor symptoms.

tog redux's picture

Good. I don't want hovering, but after I had cataract surgery, DH just dropped me off at home and went out with his friend!  lol.  I gave him a little hell for that. 

advice.only2's picture

Take care of yourselves it hits everybody different. I get the whole many baby cold thing though, my DH used to do it until I stopped catering to him.