Vent SS20 Nothing we say matters
No matter how many conversations SO has with SS20, it doesn't matter. SO wants to be hard on SS, but he doesn't know how. I just had an officer show up at my door. Hands me a fake id cut up in a small ziplock and says this was confiscated from a local liquor store. This visit is to make you aware if you want to have a coversation with him. I shook his hand and thanked him. I'm sure my face said - been here before.
IF this was an isolated incident, I wouldn't be exasperated. He has shown time and time again he won't stop drinking. I confronted him months ago and told him he's an alcoholic. He denied denied denied. Cried to get his dad to sympathize. To get caught this much, you either have to be stupid or really doing a lot of stuff you shouldn't.
I worry constantly about BS7. I will never allow this much casualness and allow these things to be "sorry" and move on. SS pretends to be doing the right things. He fakes. He's gone a lot sometimes with his friends or girlfriend, and sometimes he's home. Except for phone and living rent free, we don't pay for anything else. No school, no extra money, not even food. If I'm making dinner, he can eat too. I don't buy anything extra, even when he hints or acts pissy. He's working full time and going to college part time. He's where he should be, because he put himself there. He's been talking about wanting to go back full time in a year- I just nod and smile. I tell SO, SS needs to be out, but he can't pull the trigger.
My only repreive is that SS has been at his girlfriend's a lot. I mostly just greet him when I see him and that's it