I just started reading Stepmonster, so far I find it a little pretentious but very informative.
After reading the first few chapters, I have some questions for you all.
Do you feel walking into this life with young skids (infant to 9 years old) makes a difference in the quality of the skid/stepparent relationship? Is it "easier" for stepparents who are with their skids earlier in life?
Do you feel starting "fresh" in terms of housing (not living in the marital home BM and DH once shared) makes a difference in the quality of the romantic relationship... less resentment, etc?
I ask because 2 points the author touched on right away were the fact that she gave up her apartment and identity for her husband, and she walked into a house with a preteen and a teen. She stated that "professionals" suggested holding off on marriage if skids are between 10 years old and 16 years old (I may be off).