I've been married for 7 years and my role as stepmom was Christmas. Spring Break, and summer. The kids get along well with me. Until recently, the kids lived in another state with mom. She died suddenly several months ago and now they live with us. Stepdaughter, AR, is high school age and stepson, WG, is middle school. They both, especially AR, have founded and unfounded abandonment issues with dad. The divorce and following years were not generally friendly.
so this 4th of july week has been frickin annoying and uneventful. This is actually the day my DH got married. One year. I am struggling with my SS lying and his father acting like hes an angel. Im not trying to be a meab SM. If anything i have prob tried too hard! Example: i used to take his food up to him in his room. My own fault. Never happened again. Today my SS went to church by himself.. i thought that was odd cuz hw never does that. I said is it you"gfriends church?" He said she wasnt there. When his dad finally came down at noon...
Got back home last night from taking my bio kids back to my hometown to visit family and friends. It was nice to get away (Left SS and DH at home cuz SS had to work) and actually talk to people instead of walking around feeling uncomfortable. I HAD to come back home because my mom was getting all mad at me asking me why I came back home without my husband (cuz she doesn't think that its right) My mom and I don't see eye to eye sometimes. Thats another story.
I have been thinking a lot lately and since i tried to bring the issues out on the table my DH has been distant and not as affectionate. We went to his BS graduation and he kept kissing me and being all affectionate in front of his ex. Am i just a tool that he can use to make his ex jealous or something? His wife just sent him an email saying stop beating around the bush. Why do you hate me so much? (Thats another weird situation I will get into later) These are things that i observe and it does make me feel like crap and i feel like i have no one to talk to abt it who really cares.
Any advice on what to do with keeping myself busy while im being ignored by my husband and SS? My kids arent home so when i dont work i feel like im in their space and out of place.