Ok. So, I'm so nervous about this. SD13 (we have her FT) got invited to a friend's sleepover this weekend and I told her she could go before I knew the name of the friend (stuipd..).
So, when she gets off the phone with her friend, I ask who it is. She says 'M'. Immediately, I start freaking out on the inside..

DH and I just found out why BM "NEEDS SD for the first weekend in August.

DH picked up SD at 6PM lastnight for his regular two hour visit. They came home and I was in the kitchen playing with BD5 and BS2 and cooking dinner. DH walks in and gives everyone big hugs and kisses as usual. He looks back at SD slyly and waits for her to leave the kitchen. DH says "Found out why dipshit wants the first weekend!!" I said yeah? He says "BM is getting married!"

Okay, I am new to this web site and am looking for advice/help/support? I came across this today when I was searching the web for "when ex's won't leave the family". My situation sounds eerily similar to a lot of what is going on with all of you. My husband has been divorced from his ex for 10 years now, unfortunately she continues to insert herself in his family. Both my husband and I have asked his family on several occassions to quit talking to or having any kind of relationshp with her ... unfortunately, it's like talking to a brick wall.

If anyone has read my other blogs you will know I have decided to leave. I am looking for a new place to live. Over the weekend I told the sskids that their father wanted them to go with their grandmother to church if his sister gave her a ride. If she was taking the bus do not go with her. I explained this to them. My second to oldest ss called and was asking if she was going to church. I said no ss ask her if she is getting a ride. My oldest ss said to me WOW You really want us out of here. I was soo upset by that comment I had to leave the room.

I survived yesterday. But there was a lot of tongue biting and ignoring on my part. BM tried to talk to me a few times and I always gave her short, simple answers to any question but added little else. She mainly just sat in the backseat and listened to her MP3 player really loudly. She feed SS3 junk food and pestered him the whole time, she even woke him up from a nap because she kept touching him. She even said that SS3 didn't need lunch because he had enough snacks to get him through until dinner. BF bought him lunch any way.

I was going to post a topic with updates to my current "issues" and realized we are supposed to use a blog when not asking for advice. (When just it's just therapeutic to write it out). So here goes:

Booger Couch: SS continues to have to sit on sheet on couch and just this morning saw him pick nose and wipe it on sheet. I told DH and it just further reinforced my contention that he has to sit on thing for a LONG time, until he grows out of this disgusting habit!

I have four tough jobs, first two I can handle: being a mom to two teens and working full-time in an office. Second two are the hardest: stepmom to a teen and wife to a deployed soldier.

DH has once again ignored the fact that ss13 is in trouble at school again. SS13 ignored instructions and was rude to the teacher. Not surprised! He does it to me without a word from DH! Why would it stop there. I think the kid hates women! I have been desengaging so I was not involved in "the talk" after the incident. But ss came out of his room and got on the computer?? No consequences as usual! DH is an idiot!! He will never learn. So sad.......

I’m not sure if she’s in the early onset of puberty or what, but SD8 (she’ll be 9 in June) has been FULL of drama the past month or so. She throws full on dramatic hissy fits at the drop of a hat. Ex. – The other day SS6, talking about the Wii, said that he only liked to play war games.

SD: “WHAT?! YOU DON’T LIKE ME? I KNEW YOU HATED ME!”
SS: “Huh?”
SD: “You said that you ONLY liked to play war games! That means that you hate me! SM, did you hear what he SAID?”

DH is responsible to have ss on his health care plan so ss has been on bms plan since DH was without work he now has a job and we want him back on ours the payments are less but no she wants the money but never takes him to the doctor we always have to it just pisses me off

surly DH has a say on this