I'm so glad that Father's Day is over. I had to spend it watching my husband sleep the day away because he was depressed because none of his children came to see him. His daugher did invite him to her house for a brunch but he told me he did not want to go. I think it is because we had to drive to a party on Saturday which took a full tank of gas and it would have taken another full tank to go see his daughter on Sunday and he didn't want to spend the $$.

I have always had concerns about BF's kids when it came to the thought of us having a baby. Not that we are trying or anything but you never know what is going to happen. I have told him that I want to wait for a lot of reasons and if we were to have an 'oops' we should consider all of our options. He LOVES kids and I think he would have another right now if I would go along with it. But the main reason I want to want is his current kids, SS4 and SS6. They have some issues that I think need to be worked on before you bring a baby into the picture.

We were supposed to visit SS this weekend. But after what the ex-wife did, SS is back to avoiding us again. At least he left a voice mail on Sunday. It was of his daughter babbling on the phone while SS was telling her to wish her grandpa happy birthday. It was really cute. She was saying moo moo and baa baa. That is how she calls us now. I am moo moo. It made me really happy. But that was it. SS did not wish my husband happy Father's Day himself. I knew my husband was slightly dissappointed. But at least SS called. I should be happy right?

Quick intro on my situation! I am a Mom to a 6 year old boy & the Mom of a 6 year old little girl! I have been with my SO for 4 years....since the kdis were in diapers. SD6 & I have a GREAT relationship. BM & SO also have a GREAT relationship. We've worked very hard to get where we are. Now, our only issue is the BM. She REFUSES to ackmowledge me as part of her daughter's life.

I found this site and am turning to other fellow step parents for advice. I don't know what to do with my MIL situation. I am to the point that I no longer want to take my daughter, who is 8, up to my In Laws for visits. My husband has two boys from a previous marriage (5 and 11), and I have a daughter from a previous marriage (8). My husband is very good at treating my daughter like she is his, and I do my best to also treat his boys like they are my own, when they are in our company.

bm does nothing for her kids.she lives in California with her other 2 younger kids. after i found out she was claiming all 4 kids to get link card,housing and cash assistance i lost any humanity i had for her. in all the yeas she was claiming them she never once sent any money for food or anything. the last time she saw them was last July only becuz i made them go see her cuz i was pregnant and stressed out. this summer both SS have summer school so i don't get a break. but Im at the point where i literally don't want to spend any of my.money on them. i work full time all week for $10/HR.

SD5 - Can we go to the beach
Me - We are going to go wherever daddy wants to go today
SD5 - Why?
Me - Because its fathers day
SD5 - (annoyed pouty face) Can we go to the park?
ME - Dadddy wants to go to Best Buy and pick out a couple of movies
SD5 - Can I have a movie?
ME - No
SD5 - Why?
ME - Because its FATHERS day
SD5 - (annoyed pouty face) Well can we go to the park?
Me - No
SD5 - Why?
ME - Because daddy doesnt want to go to the park and were spending today with daddy.
SD5 - Why?

I want to give a little background before I go into what happened on Fathers day.

FDH's birthday falls two days shy of Father's Day this year, which resulted in a protracted three days of ass-kissing. I spent his actual birthday cleaning his house (which I *never* do) so that he could throw his birthday party without much fuss on Saturday. Turned out there was a bit of fuss because FSD3 chose Saturday to turn into Attila the Hun.

So, our weekend was anything but drama-free. At work, Friday, DH's boss made a comment about DH's daughter to the guy in charge of the site...the guy DH's company works for. Because the job took so long & had so many problems, he told DH's boss, "You owe me & I need payment in the form of a piece of ass. You owe me a night with your daughter". DH's boss (not knowing DH was standing behind him) says, "I've got 2 sons but I don't have a daughter...but DH does. You can have her. It's his fault all this took so long anyway. For that, I'll give you 2 nights with her".