We have all 6 kids over, and the boy took his medicine and still acts like an ass.

My skids live with us all the time. They are 14, 15, and 17. (We also have a son who is 8.) They are supposed to see their BM EOW.

Am I evil for wanting to them to be gone? BM changed plans with SD17 at the last minute without consulting DH, so BM just took SD and left the boys here. I commented to DH it wasn't fair for her to reschedule my weekend without our permission. And he gets all pissy, "She's crazy. I don't want them there, it's better they didn't go..."

If you read my previous post about DH being upset that my mom doesn't want to babysit SD7, this is sort of a follow-up. I knew DH wasn't happy about it but I thought he had let it go. If not, at least try to deal with it and move on. I guess last night he was telling SD7 that DH and I are going out tonight so she will be staying with her grandma. She asked where Ava (our baby girl) is staying, and DH told her that my mom is coming over to stay with her so she can stay home. Of course SD asked why, and I already forget what DH told her.

It was about if you would consider sleeping with your ex.
I said no I didn't see that one.

I am new here, but with the same problems for 16 yrs. I have a ss who is 20 and hates me. I have dedicated the last 16 years to supporting him. He has lived with us since he was 11. I became pregnant in 08 and he really laid it on. I basically avoided any confrontations at that time due to the pregnancy. He really laid on the verbal abuse. My husband truly ignores it and stated that he is not going to change. We just have to love him and support him. I am at my wits end with his talking down to me. I have always tried to overlook it, because he is dealing with a divorce.

i knew the knot was growing in the pit of my stommache for a reason... And then I found out why...

My New Year's Resolution was not to let BM drama effect my life anymore. I am trying to remain calm. I was so pleased how things have gone around here this week. DH really stepped up and made sure his kids were doing their chores and school work and all that. We'd agreed I was to have no contact with BM for a time. I guess it was bugging her, because she called and left a message to apologize for her behavior, and she "wants things back the way they were between us." She misses her "best friend."

Wow... she actually did it! A BM that knows she cannot handle her kids.

Monday, BM, BF and SD10 and SS13 went into the counselor's office. BM told her kids they would be staying permanently with BF and just having visits with her. All adults involved thought that the kids would flip out, especially SD10. There was no freaking out, the kids took it fine and everyone was shocked by it. The counselor even sent the adults out and asked the kids again if they were ok. Still no tears or breakdowns!

However, the kids did ask a few interesting questions.

Hi All,

I am fairly new here. I have been reading your post for a few months and decided it was time to post for advice.... My question is how do you deal with step kids that lie and act in a deceitful manner all the time?

After reading everyone's stuff, I feel better, but still very alone. My husband and I have been together for almost 5 years now. He has 2 daughters- one with an ex GF and one with an ex-wife.