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Kids were told they are not going back to MOM!

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Submitted by Freedom2005 on Fri, 01/15/2010 - 8:28pm

Wow... she actually did it! A BM that knows she cannot handle her kids.

Monday, BM, BF and SD10 and SS13 went into the counselor's office. BM told her kids they would be staying permanently with BF and just having visits with her. All adults involved thought that the kids would flip out, especially SD10. There was no freaking out, the kids took it fine and everyone was shocked by it. The counselor even sent the adults out and asked the kids again if they were ok. Still no tears or breakdowns!

However, the kids did ask a few interesting questions.

They asked their mom, "are you going to have food in your house? We ALWAYS have food at home."

:O

SD10 said, "yeah, and Freedom is a good cook too! I like what she makes"
SS13 agreed.... BF laughed and said, "she is a pretty good cook"

Kudos for me!!! Smile

They also asked the counselor, with out the adults, if me and BF are going to get married.

She had no idea what to say... we don't even know yet!

Guess the kids are doing ok!!!

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Submitted by Freedom2005 on Sat, 01/16/2010 - 4:15pm

BF has the appointment to get the paperwork done up on Monday.

I do know there may be repercussions still. We are watching them and keeping the counselor informed if we need to. The fall out was why they met at the counselors to do this. They have been living with us for the last 9 months. They have been seeing BM and doing well. They were told they would be doing visits with BM, they see here 2 nights a week still.

I do hope for them it is a positive change. These kids know about her drug use and other neglect.

Of course they love their mother, and I am so glad. I remind BF of this every time he says something about her. I advised my children early on that I think they should love their father even though he is not with them all the time. They asked me, I don't know who to love more. I told them to love us both as much as you want. We both know you love the other, and we want you to know that. Don't feel torn between us, you are our children, no matter what.

thanks Cruella. I do appreciate it!

Immature love says: 'I love you because I need you.' Mature love says 'I need you because I love you.'
Erich Fromm