This has been a VERY enjoyable Christmas...WHY? Because of the invasion of my family...They TOTALLY ruled!

7 of my family is in town, and they have outshined all the drama...

SD is trying to capture all the attention...From the moment she's been here...DH has been working full time keeping her in line...But I haven't really been bothered by it because I've been busy with my family and DS...

She wasn't here 5 minutes before she picked a fight with my 15 year old cousin...I didn't know anything about it until I heard DH yelling...

God how I have grown to hate parts of Chrustmas. Use to be one if my absolute favorite holidays. Over the past 8-9 years I've learned that it's become a game with the skids who's house is better. They really make out well bc BM has open house on x-mass eve & all relatives ( including their stepdads family) and everyone gives them gifts. Then on chrustmas they get gifts from BM & stepdad, then come over to our house & get our gifts. Must be nice. Every year I have to hear about what great gift aunt so and so got them, or what mom got them.

All the kids are here, mine SO's and SO's stepdaughter even came (he's raised her since she was a baby she's 10) he figured she came for presents he hadn't bought her anything since she hasn't spoke to him in months, but he explained why and she was understanding! My daughter even gave her one of her gently used barbies as a gift. My SO is so happy to have them here and his sd told him she was sorry she hadn't visited or talked to him she was afraid and shy to meet me.

As last year's words belong to last year's language and next year's words await another voice. So to make and end is to make a begining.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year my most excellent friends.

This is the 3rd year I've been with my FDH and involved with this fucked up situation! I can't stand his family!! And I can't stand how he becomes someone else when we hang out with his famiy!! My FDH says things to me like..."my family doesn't know who I am and I don't say anything cause they will always draw their own conclusions and they still won't know who I am, so that's why I don't say anything" so wtf?...he acts like someone I don't know when we have to go spend time with them. And we HAVE TO!!

Totally my fault for staying with a man who refuses to set appropriate boundaries.

Every year, he gets up at the crack of dawn to go to his wife's house to watch his only child open up presents !
(Smack in the middle of a VERY expensive divorce)
This year, I learn that he has breakfast while there and opens his gifts and stocking ?!
I don't have children so maybe I don't understand what is usual in these kinds of situations.

I did the spoiling this year at Christmas. I did the double standard buying. My skids aren't here. SD20 rarely makes contact. On her own. Ss15 tells his dad our house is boring. He is refusing to come for visitation. When he's here he does nothing, he doesn't talk and life is about him and what he wants.

So if u dont know why im here ull have to go read my why I'm here blog..but thought ya all might enjoy my purely evil but hope a lesson will be learned.
Ive been reading all the blogs of well..lets put it out there..god damn bratty kids who think santa thinks they r just so great and will bring presents just because thats how it is every yea. U can be a complete ass and still get up xmas morning and have a plethera of presents. (yes I raise my hand as a guilty party to this concept)

SO's weekend with the kids (by verbal agreement, nothing legal) SO got a nasty text he'd get the kids sometime xmas day, he replied it was his weekend she could have the 9am-2pm xmas eve and 2pm-8pm xmas day. She replied "you lost your right to tell me what I will do, I'll LET you have the kids sometimes sunday you can keep them till monday." HIM "I'll see the kids friday night at 6pm for my visitation" HER "Nope, bye"

Hate. That is what I feel when the skids are around.