Oh silly DH.
So DH just text me the following…
DH: “What time do you think we should leave to pick up SS at the airport?” (He is taking him to BM’s)
I sometimes feel bad because he expects me to treat SS like he treats my kids. He would want to go. UGH. But I am not close to SS like he is to my kids. And I have really good reasons for that.
1). I have known SS for 11 years. For the first 7-8 years I saw him once or twice every few months. Most of the time for only a few moments. DH saw my kids most every day for a few hours at least.
2)Most of what I knew about SS was that he was a thief, a liar, a fighter, a manipulator, a sexual harasser, glue sniffer…ect,ect. Then he came to live with us and we got some of that out of him, but not all.
3) SS has a mom and I am not it.
4) He disrespected my home when he was here last so I am not happy to see the little shit anyway.
5) BM is always, not far behind SS and I don’t want to deal with her.
6) DH acts like an idiot on these little vacations of SS. I can take (and would look forward to) being ignored for SS for a few weeks. But DH wants to drag me into everything to do with SS. DH gets in the “EVERYBODY LOOK AT SS AND TELL HIM HOW GREAT HE IS AND HOW MUCH BETTER HE IS BECAUSE HE IS IN THE MILITARY” Makes me wanna puke.
Anywho..DH is all butt hurt now because I told him I had some errands to run. I will let him and SS have some bonding time. Lol. I have plenty of time to see SS a week from now.
I think some of us feel this way…DH is close and great to your kids, but you don’t like his kids…? I wish it was different. And it may have been different if DH and BM raised SS better.
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I wouldn't say I don't like
I wouldn't say I don't like BFs kids, I don't like the way they behave. They are small and if this continues then I am sure there will come a point in time where I will not like them. BF does try but how much can one man do in 48 hours EOW. Whatever he does reverse just goes back to the way it was when they are home with BM.
I feel the same way. We
I feel the same way. We moved about 40 min from BM and SD and now DH makes the drive to get SD a couple times a week. I avoid it for a lot of reasons. First I have no interest in trying to make small talk with someone who acts like they are being torchured by talking to me. Second, I try to force DH to spend some one on one time with SD and really take a little and I think a 40 car ride would be good for that. Lastly, I just enjoy a few minutes of alone time while he is gone.
DH is so great with DD10. She
DH is so great with DD10. She was only 5 when I met him and he was so good and patient with her. He calls her his daughter and is very protective of her. He never wants her to feel left out or unhappy.
It makes me feel bad because I honestly dislike SD15 alot!! She has no good qualities, she is not sweet and caring, she is manipulative and evil. How can anyone like that?? I see even he is annoyed with her these days so he cannot blame me for feeling that way.
she is manipulative and
she is manipulative and evil
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This is my SS to a T. He is better at 19 now. But still just icky and manipulative. And to this day he still tries to get BM and DH in the same place so they can take family pictures. GAG!