DH gone 3 days next week on business, I'm stuck with SS
DH has to go to a business conference next week and I get stuck with SS(almost 12) the whole time (3 days, 2 nights). That's also the first week of summer vacation. I wish I didn't get dumped on like this but I don't know what else to do.
DH's job involves traveling and he can't tell his boss he can't go because his wife won't watch his kid. Sending SS to BM isn't an option. I've strongly suggesting that SS needs to spend the summer with BM, but she doesn't have a job, anywhere to live or money so can't take care of her self much less her own child. So I get stuck with SS.
I've tried completely disengaging but theres no way that DH could take care of SS without me. He'd have to quit his job then what? I got back to work full time and he's a stay at home daddy? I want to be home some with my kids (they're 10 mos and 3.5) until they're both at least in preschool.
DH put SS into the afterschool program after all the problem he caused for my sister who babysits for us. But that last three days and he was kicked out because they didn't have the staff to handle a kid with the kind of emotional problems he has. We can't find any summer day care programs that will take him, so I'm stuck with him.
There's no way I can deal with him the whole summer. I can't stand this kid and I'm getting close to my breaking point here. I don't want to be anywhere near him. I don't like what this situation is doing to me but I can't stand this kid and I want him gone not have to take care of him by myself!
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Ha! You'd think so. SS
Ha! You'd think so. SS refuses to do anything I say and it's a battle just to get him to do basic things. Plus there he has appointments with his therapist and psychiatrist, the daily battle over getting him to take his meds.
I understand you same
I understand you same situation with me. BM has no money no place and is to busy partying and doing drugs and other stupid shit. so we have the kids all the time no joke.
SS has massive behavioral &
SS has massive behavioral & emotional problems, depression, probably ODD.
How was your DH handling
How was your DH handling things before you came onto the scene ? If the BM has always been a loser, he must have had support then ?? I'm amazed that these Parents just expect us SMs to be unpaid babysitters, among the other dozens of things we already do ( or in my case, DID )
DH had always been a
DH had always been a non-custodial parent until earlier this year. He typically had him 6 weeks in the summer & holidays, but BM overscheduled him and claimed he didn't want to come. This is the first time DH has had him full-time since BM had to leave the country.
I completely agree. He isn't
I completely agree. He isn't my responsibility and I shouldn't have to take care of him. The problem is no one else will.
SS stays in his room and doesn't speak to me so it's pretty easy to pretend he doesn't exist.
I want to ignore him. The problem is he needs to eat, take his meds, go to the doctor. If I didn't do those things, no one would.
I wish I could put him on a plane like that woman did with the Russian adopted boy and send him to BM. I don't care what happens to him or if they're homeless and living on the streets. I don't want him here, DH isn't taking care of him. If he was a dog, he already would have been taken to the pound. This isn't working, I don't want anything to do with this kid and DH doesn't have the time or any real desire to deal with him. He should be gone.