Upset over what we found in ss12 phone
So ss(almost 13) messed up his cell phone. Dh kept it and gave him an old one we had. Ao dh charged the messed up phone and was looking thru it. Apparently ss played with the video camera on the phone a lot and we found 2 disturbing videos. What would you do?
Video 1- Shows ss hitting ds3...repeatedly....on his head. Ss was saying, "This is my ugly brother." hen was just hitting him with his hand, not hard enough to make ds cry but hard enough to make him frustrated. The look on ds face went from playful to frustrated. Ds didn't do anything tonprovoke ss and neve een fought back. The video was a minute or so long, but it was heartbreaking. I knew they fought, but never knew it was like this. I was so mad and sad at the same time. Dh is upset too. Dh or myself were not in the room. More than likely dh was at work and I was in my room nursing the baby.
Video 2- Shows dh setting up his new tv stand. Ss is videoing everyone in the room. He shows ds and says, "This is my ugly brother." (Dh didn't hear any of this when it happened and ss voice on the video is low.) Then shows dh and says "this is my ugly dad." Then you see ss hand holding an empty water gun. He points it to dh's head and makes shooting sounds. In the video dh is so oblivious. He was shocked when he saw the video. We joked one day ss wasgoing to shoot us in bed. But really it disturbed us.
So what would you do? Dh won't see ss til next weekend. And luckily he is visiting ss in his town and the kids and I are not going. Should he say anything? Or just drop it but not leave ds unsupervised with ss? I'm pretty livid about it still. Advice?