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Running from the law?

zerostepdrama's picture

A little back story.

November 2015 SS got OVI- not alcohol but weed. (though I am guessing it may have been other drugs).

While he was waiting to go to court for the OVI he gets a second one. Same- for drugs (supposedly weed).

So he gets probation, work release "jail" at a half way house. He seems to be doing fine for about 6 months or so.

Then over the summer he gets a revocation hearing. Not sure what for. He goes back to court, they give him counseling.

About a month ago a letter comes in the mail, DH opens it because it wasn't addressed to "Jr". It's the counseling center saying they are going to report that he failed his counseling program due to failing a drug test twice for cocaine.

During this time, I see a picture of SS on Instagram, taken someplace tropical with hashtags insinuating he is helping with the hurricane relief. He does construction so it's plausible.

OSD told DH who told me that SS is in the Cayman Islands. #1- he doesn't have a passport #2- unlikely that he would have been able to get out of the country with his record #3 Cayman Islands weren't affected by the hurricanes is my understanding. Well I guess he said since SS didn't pass the drug test, he doesn't plan on coming back for awhile.

This is all while his GF of 5 months who is SUPER obsessed with him, is pregnant. She later miscarries.

DH hasn't talked to him so no idea on what is really going on or where he is at or when he plans on coming back.

And of course in true OSD fashion at first her and SS GF were all buddy buddy until GF found out she was pregnant. Then OSD started making off hand comments to GF and now they are no longer friends on FB. OSD just can not let any other female around the males in her life (DH and SS) if she thinks it's anything permanent.)

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Being nosey on DH's FB and saw OSD post a pic of her 4 months old: "Teething so I am letting him gnaw on a chicken nugget. :O Last month she gave him mashed up pancakes.

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DaizyDuke's picture

Oh boy, I missed that GF had a miscarriage. I wonder if she was ever really pregnant?? Maybe she knows that SS is not planning on coming back anytime soon, so gave up on the charade and will move on to her next victim? Ugh, so cynical, but these people are such pond scum.

bananaseedo's picture

If he doesn't have a felony he can still get a passport. Big difference in possession between weed or other drugs in terms of convictions.

As for getting out of the country-can't say I blame him. Maybe he'll have a chance at re-building his life. ONce IN the system here you are most surely going to stay in. Hope he can get his life back on track one day. Sometimes just the knowledge of a 2nd chance w/out being thrown back in can change people. Sorry to hear about the gf's loss...at 5 months. That is quite devastating.

zerostepdrama's picture

SS and GF have only been together for maybe 5 months. She was just pregnant. All she had was a urine test at a health clinic and not even her first appointment, so not sure how far along she was. Maybe 4 weeks. Not that it matters but just clarifying it wasn't 5 months.

I hope he can get his life back on track. But he has plenty of opportunity here to do the right thing and he doesn't. You would think the first OVI would have scared him, nope for him to only repeat the same mistake months later. You would think his first revocation hearing would have been a lesson, nope. Still doing drugs, knowing that he is getting drug tested.

It's really because he just thinks he is above the law. He hasn't really been punished enough to make a difference for him to WANT to change his life.

zerostepdrama's picture

That they are "just kids" and they will grow up someday. :? That they are figuring life out. SS is 24.

zerostepdrama's picture

Not sure but it should be soon... DH hasn't said anything and I'm not asking Smile

mommadukes2015's picture

A little bit of a name-horror story.

One of my mom's coworker's has a son who is a Jr. to her ex. Ex was ordered to pay child support and never did. Owes in the 10s of thousands of dollars. Jr. grows up and goes to get a loan for school. System-some system somewhere associated her Ex's information with Jr.'s Social Security number. NOW Jr.'s wages are being garnished for HIS OWN CHILD SUPPORT. He is 3 years and thousands of dollars into fighting this. His credit is in the tank and Ex is no where to be found.

Make sure the courts are making the distinction between your DH & his JR before they end up attaching any consequences to the wrong person.

Livingoutloud's picture

When the money is garnished where does it go? To his mom? She is the one who can easily fix it. So it’s been going for years???