Dumb Updates To My Dumb Gripe
So. I had a Dumb Gripe Tuesday Night:
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Updates. When I looked in the freezer, DH had actually bought BOTH the $7 pint of specialty ice cream AND the novelty item Nutty Buddy Superscoops. And not the small 4-pack. The big, expensive 8-pack.
YSD ate half of the pint while she was here and didn't even open the Nutty Buddies. I don't know why that infuriates me so much.
Now - another update. When I was checking how we did on our weekly budget, I noticed that there was no charge for the grocery store DH and YSD went to Tuesday night, which means he used his personal account to pay for the treats. So...I guess that's progress? He also wanted to take me and YSD out to a movie last night, and he paid for that as well. I mean, technically I'm still covering more than my fair share of the household bills, so I'm subsidizing this...but it is progress and it did make me feel a little better about the whole thing. Not much, but a little.
Since YSD didn't touch the ice cream that she insisted DH drop everything to go buy for her, and since we're on a strict eating plan, DH told her to take all the ice cream back to BM's with her when she left this morning. So...yeah. We are now providing extra snacks for BM, apparently.
I don't know. Again, I know it's so, so petty and I'm not a petty person, normally. Ultimately, we're talking about maybe $12-15 of ice cream here? It's more about YSD's expectations and how she's talking to DH and her whole princess act. This morning, for example, he asked her about a few chores he'd asked her to do this week and she said: "Aw...hell, no. Never Again!!" I mean, she was "joking" but she actually didn't do the chores. But still expects special treat runs to the store...
It's really sad and even a bit heartbreaking to me, because YSD was an incredibly sweet child and we've always been close...and in the past two years I can just barely stand her. I hate the way she dresses, I hate, hate, HATE the way she talks...like she's trying to be too cool for school and slangy. I hate the way she walks around like she's so cool and so smart. DH backs her up in all this, literally saying things to her like: "How does it feel to be the 'cool girl' and have all these other girls looking up to you all the time?"
I just don't get it...she's really not very cool or very pretty, but DH thinks rainbows fly out her bottom and every idea she has is so 'original' and 'unique' - all I see is a slave to horrible, unflattering fashion and slang trends. Not sure what DH is seeing. He's also always going on and on about how smart she is and how good at school she is. I agree she's good at school, but I think it's mostly because she's always known how to appeal to grownups and has been teacher favorite a lot. She took her AP tests and her SAT/ACT recently and was decidedly mediocre on all of it.
Anyway. I guess I just wish that I still liked her...like I used to. I think she's kind of lazy and sloppy and annoying now. Maybe that's just part of being a teen girl? Every once in a while, I will see a glimpse of the little, precocious but still sweet 8-year-old that I first met...
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Eh sounds like my DH and SD.
Eh sounds like my DH and SD. He used to go on and on to anyone who would listen about her getting into this one very exclusive college after high school. It started when she was in 8th grade and lasted for years. All I would hear from him is how SD is SO BRILLIANT and how her "exceptional" grades would surely get her into said exclusive college. I had my doubts but kept quiet so as not to rain on their big parade. My SD is very immature for her age, shy to the point of almost having social anxiety and lazy. Having a background in education and being familiar with her school, I knew the only reason for her fairly high grades was the fact that she is a overall well behaved girl and probably one of the few students at that impoverished urban district who didn't threaten to burn down the chemistry labs on a daily basis. When you you have a class of 30 thugs you tend to give the quiet, mediocre, shy girl an A just for turning in her homework most of the time and not making your life a living hell.
Fast forward and she is now going into her senior year and her grades have dropped dramatically after switching to a more rigorous suburban school. She is no longer focused on grades, rather boys, trashy reality TV and drama. Her aspirations in life are to get a tattoo and a boyfriend. She hates reading, she hates getting out of bed and it's a battle to get her to even bring something downstairs let alone do an actual chore. My husband is frustrated and close to giving up because of her "recent" behavior but I saw all this years ago. She is turning slowly into her mom, the welfare fraud queen.
So sit back and watch. She will probably burn her own bridges in time and your husband will see all on his own.
Teen girls are terrible. My
Teen girls are terrible. My DD started with the laziness and sloppiness but I put an end to it quickly. What I have encountered with every teen I know is that they will get away with what is allowed.
I really, really just can't
I really, really just can't stand the way she waltzes in and makes every conversation all about her and her "ideas." It seems like she's performing or showing off for her dad. I don't think she talks like this all the time. She also says "Oh, HEELLLL Yeah!" Or "Aw, HEEELLLLL No!" a lot. She does this like she's joking, and DH laughs every time, but I think it's totally annoying and inappropriate.
Anyhow. Just counting down the days at this point.
There are very few teenagers
There are very few teenagers I can tolerate. They are the ones whose parents actually PARENT and do not treat like they are fragile, speshul snowflakes who need a trophy for breathing.
I am hoping all 3 skids
I am hoping all 3 skids launch. They seem to be...somewhat...
I may not like their personalities at all...but I'll be glad if they can make it out in the world. Choosing to hope!