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Medically fragile babysitter. Is this negligence?

step.life's picture

SD has mentioned that GBM has been in the hospital several times this year. She has cancer, had a stroke, broken arm, fainted a few times and drinks wine a lot(SD words). SD9 said that her mom is planning on using GBM as the summer babysitter. It seems highly negligent to leave a child in the care of someone this medically fragile. BM has several older family members (great aunts, uncles, etc.) Some on oxygen that she has a history of leaving SD with. Obviously because they're not working and available, but don't seem very capable. Is there anything we can do to stop this?

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Luckyone's picture

My daughter started babysitting her three younger brothers at that age as well. Depends on the maturity level tho.

ItsGrowingOld's picture

You are absolutely correct. DH's daughters were suffering terribly under BM's care when they were young. DH called social services to discuss the horrific conditions his daughters endured in their mothers home. The social worker basically said unless there was blood drawn there was nothing they could do Sad

Dontfeedthetrolls's picture

I've asked this same question. BM leaves kids with a family member who is on oxygen, has cancer, and atleast monthly WE visits.

Though it's not enriching to the kids it's not considered directly harmful. If the family member passes the kids are able to call 911 or get help from a neighbor. Make sure the kid can call for help. Otherwise I have nothing.

Willow2010's picture

No, there is nothing you can do to stop it. Nor should you try.

Actually, this should be a non-issue to you. Relax, and enjoy life and stop worrying about things like this. And this advice comes from experience also. Oh the time I spent wasted by freaking myself out over non-issues. It is not worth it.

ESMOD's picture

Unless granny is getting T-Totally Loaded and then getting in the car to drive SD9 around, I don't think it's an issue.

You might have a little more ground to push back if we were talking about an infant but this is a 9 yo. At that age I think it's more just having some supervision so that the kids don't run completely wild.

Dontfeedthetrolls's picture

But come on BM just has to go out and party.

Or honestly she doesn't see a better option.

The BM I know uses her's because it's free child care while she works. Now she could allow SO to have them but she doesn't want to so that so it's up to him to decide if it's worth it to fight in court but as other's have said the court won't see the ill family member as a big enough reason to change custody agreements.