SS had paperwork sent home from school last week about 8th grade graduation. It informed parents that each kid gets 4 tickets and what time they will be graduating, since there are 2 sessions.
BM has not mention graduation to SS once. Hasn't asked for a ticket, hasn't mentioned ANYTHING. I wasn't even certain she knew there was a ceremony to be honest. Because she is a special brand of stupid.

Anyway, we ask SS who he wants to invite. We have 8 tickets because DD is graduating too. DH will be on a work trip. So we have 4 tickets left after me, my mom, my ex and oldest DD. He says "gma and gpa (BM's dad and stepmom) and gma S and Uncle M (BM's mom and Bm's brother). I say "are you sure"? Yes... that's it. Ok.

I left it alone for a few days and then asked again, but I was blunt about it this time. "Are you SURE you don't want to invite your mom". His answer, though he is always mature about this stuff, surprised me. He said "I talked to her for a minute today on the phone. I heard someone in the background talking over her, being really loud and obnoxious. I asked who it was and she said "oh, that's meth man". I kinda yelled at her, asking her why she is still hanging out with him. She tells me he has changed, but it doesn't matter to me if he has changed. I don't think he has, but even if he did, she still wanted to be with him instead of be a mom, and I'm still mad at her for that. She's never going to change. I don't want her there".

Ok buddy. I understand.

So... I called her stepmom and told her the date and time and let her know that as of right now SS doesn't want BM there. She says they won't say anything to her about it (not sure I believe that, but whatever).

This past weekend SS had a baseball tournament. BM's dad and stepmom were there, per usual. I was talking to her stepmom and she tells me that BM went to the school (mind you, she still hasn't just ASKED SS if she can have a ticket. Hasn't asked him ANYTHING about Grad) anyway, she went in to the school and asked them if they would give her a ticket. They told her no. That the tickets go to the kids. There is nothing they can do for her. Apparently they said she can check back the day of graduation and see if there are any left over, but that never happens.

I told her stepmom, if she shows up and SS doesn't want her there, she is going to make things worse with him. He will be angry with her. But, I suppose she will have to learn that on her own. Stepmom said "he's completely embarrassed of her, he doesn't want his friends to see her the way she is now". (saying this because he wouldn't even walk next to her at the mall last time they were together). I just said, regardless, he is angry with her, and that wouldn't help at all.

Part of me hopes she does actually show up, it would be nice to see SOME sort of actual effort. But we all know that won't happen. I guess she told her dad and stepmom that she is just going to wait and see if DH and I "do the right thing" and give her a ticket. It's not up to us. Those are SS's tickets. He decides.