GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

The Ann Files

It's been quiet lately where my friend Ann is concerned, which is why I haven't written about her. (I also had a few days off of work, and work is pretty much the only place I hang around here on ST!)

Anyway, I'm really not sure if Ann is delusional, or if her situation is really a lot different from what most of us here are dealing with. I was talking with her last night, and she said she met BM for the second time over the weekend, again on the soccer field. Apparently, Ann and BM spent the whole time (two games' worth of time- no thanks) chatting like they were BFFs. Apparently, BM told Ann how happy she is that Ann is in her kids' lives, how much her daughter Mary talks about "being super close" with Ann and how she, BM, is glad about that.

Later, when they were at Hot Tom's house, Hot Tom said he thought BM was sincere. She's a "super authentic" person and couldn't lie about something like that. (OK, this is the woman who totally attacks Hot Tom on a regular basis about how he's a "deadbeat dad" even though he has 50/50 custody.) Hot Tom attributes it to a cultural difference. BM was raised in a different country, in a wealthy family, by a succession of nannies. Hot Tom seems to think that BM sees Ann as the nanny, helping to raise the kids. That's normal to her. If BM knows a "nanny" is helping to raise her kids, she can return to her country without her kids guilt-free.

Ann says she feels sorry for BM, with her entire family in another country.

I don't know- either Ann and Hot Tom are spot on, or everyone in this situation is completely delusional. I hope for everyone's sake, her situation id totally different from what the rest of us deal with. It seems too good to be true, but then again, Ann is one of those people that the sun shines on- she has always gotten everything she wants, always has things go completely her way. (The bitch- LOL!)

Oh, and Ann continues to gush profusely about these amazing, special, extraordinarily talented kids of "hers." Especially that little Mary- she's so "spunky" and "outspoken." I think she sees Mary as a challenge- if she can deal with all the attitude this little witch can dish out, she "wins." Everything in Ann's world is about winning.


advice.only's picture

Wow so basically HT clarified

Wow so basically HT clarified that BM sees Ann as a nanny...as in hired help, as in BM does not even see her as HT's girlfriend, but more as hired help. That is one backhanded compliment if ever I heard one.

Read: "spunky" and "outspoken" equals spoiled and mouthy.

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Ninji's picture

That's what I was thinking

That's what I was thinking too. A nanny, to be at BM and HT's becken call whenever they need something for those special children.

Clevergirlfriend99's picture

Ann is surely delusional even

Ann is surely delusional even if the BM is reasonable. My BM is reasonable and not an issue. She and I have messaged each other on Facebook and had really nice conversations. The first time we met, she introduced herself and had only complimentary things to say about how her sons said I was "cool."

My DH and BM were nasty to each other when we were first dating. Things have calmed down a lot but he still gets really frustrated with her. She had a medical episode that caused her to lose some of her mental sharpness and somehow caused her to stop pushing DH's buttons.

All in all, she's been a really easy BM and I've been with DH almost 3 years and married for 6 months.

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Aniki's picture

I wonder if BM will be okay

I wonder if BM will be okay with the situation when Hot Tom marries Nanny Ann...

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justanothergurlNJ's picture

Bahahaha......And in 6 months

Bahahaha......And in 6 months Ann will be a regular poster on this. Telling us how she went into her relationship with ho Tom having Brady Bunch type delusions and now BM is nuts and Tom won't set boundaries! I am being generous, giving her 6 months.

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hereiam's picture

Ann, Hot Tom, and BM are

Ann, Hot Tom, and BM are still in the polite mode, which is obvious by Ann's reference to Sailor Talk Mary as "spunky" and "outspoken".

BM is "super authentic" and just loves how Mary talks about Ann and how close they are? Okay.

Perhaps HT and BM are in cahoots to wrangle Ann in and raise their kids for them. Sounds like they are doing a pretty good job.

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

Sailor Talk Mary...LOL! I

Sailor Talk Mary...LOL!

I think Mary's got her ST nickname!

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GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

And here's the thing- Ann is

And here's the thing- Ann is OKAY with being seen as a nanny! At least, that's what she says now. I certainly wouldn't be, but hey, whatever. "As long as BM doesn't cause me trouble, I'm okay with being seen as a nanny." Ann's words.

Like someone said, give it a few months.

Ann was telling me how over the weekend, Hot Tom was asleep on the couch while she did the kids' laundry and had them clean their rooms, like that's a good thing! Jawdropping!

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sunshinex's picture

I don't even do my

I don't even do my stepdaughters laundry haha it gets washed, dried, and put into her dresser by her - whether or not it's folded, I don't care lol

Clevergirlfriend99's picture

Dickmatized is now my

Dickmatized is now my favorite word. Thank you to whomever coined that phrase. God help her. I hope it's REALLY good.

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GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

Right? (Well, apparently it

Right? (Well, apparently it IS, but it's only been 3 1/2 months. Once the dickmatization fades, let's see who's doing laundry.)

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Don't wrestle with a pig. You only end up getting dirty and besides, the pig likes it.

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secondplace's picture

I like dickstracted too! I

I like dickstracted too! I think that was Ninji who used it.

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HeavenLike's picture

This story is entertaining. I

This story is entertaining. I would think Ann is a red hot liar except she's only known Hot Tom for three months.

So BM is besties with Nanny Ann. Will that hold when Hot Tom marries the Nanny? Will BM merrily leave for her home country and let Hot Tom and his wife Nanny Ann raise her children?

Maybe BM is plotting to whisk the children away with her....

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

Nope. From what I've heard,

Nope. From what I've heard, she'd never take those kids. She's not interested in being a parent. Neither is he, IMO. Guess that's why they need Ann!

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Don't wrestle with a pig. You only end up getting dirty and besides, the pig likes it.

I wish I were a unicorn so I could stab all the fucktards with my head.

lintini's picture

Can't you just slap some

Can't you just slap some sense into nanny Ann?? Run Ann ruuuuuuuuuuuuunnn!

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Merrywey's picture

I'd have been out of there

I'd have been out of there the minute he described her as "an authentic" person! As opposed to what? Yikes I hate that term.

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moving_on's picture

Men are not supposed to sleep

Men are not supposed to sleep with their nannies. I have a feeling this whole situation is going to explode when Ann realizes she is hired help that's not getting paid.

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TwoOfUs's picture

My BM is an 'authentic

My BM is an 'authentic person' too...an authentic poor-mouthing, perpetual victim, money-grubbing, chaos-inducing, lazy person. But she does her...I'll give her that all day long.

Cocktail..Hour..Please's picture

Denture Debbie was sooooo

Denture Debbie was sooooo nice to me when I first met her. Didn't take long for that to turn around now did it? Sticking out tongue

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wineisthecure's picture

In a few months, when the

In a few months, when the shine wears off, Hot Tom sleeping on the couch while Nanny Annie does laundry and kids tidy their rooms will become ...

Lazy F***** Tom sleeping on the couch and Angry Annie hitting the booze and checking out kid free vacations on the internet, whilst the kids tear up the rooms and the laundry pile is a mini everest.

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StepAside's picture

Hot Tom is running for Mayor

Hot Tom is running for Mayor of Fence Rider City. He's got all the answers that he believes his little women need to hear.

That spunky little Mary is going to love having her own nanny to boss around.

Kinda funny that BM appreciates Ann for being the hired help. And from what BM has learned growing up, when the hired help isn't cutting the mustard, they get fired.

Imagine as some point, BM is going to try to fire Ann. Nobody is that super special.

princessmofo's picture

Oh, Ann... Maybe when this

Oh, Ann... Maybe when this all blows up in her face she and my Stockholm sister can get a place together. Eye-wink

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