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A Catch 22

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Mon, 07/25/2016 - 12:51pm

BS starts back to school in 2 1/2 weeks. That means summer is almost over. (not really but it feels that way.)

I love Fall but I love Summer too. Things just seem easier. Less stressful. Laid back. Evenings on my hammock with a cold beer in my hand. Pool days with BS.

But the good part is that school will be starting for YSD17. Her senior year. Her last year. She will turn 18 in April and graduate in May.

Which means- NO MORE CHILD SUPPORT AND BM!

I am giddy inside to know that this is happening soon.

I never thought we would make it this far.

I am nervous too, like what could go wrong? Something will go wrong, right? Ugh.

While the skids will still be DH's kids, its a good feeling to know that the last one ages out soon.

I see a light at the end of the tunnel.

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Submitted by notasm3 on Mon, 07/25/2016 - 1:35pm

She'll get knocked up, not finish high school this year and expect you to help support the baby. And she might even have twins. }:) }:) }:)

An aside - a long-term close friend of mine sent her daughter cross country to an HBU. She came home in May 8 months pregnant with twins from one of the few non-Black students at the HBU.

Her mother was not racist but would have preferred that her daughter had settled with a nice young black man. Not to worry about the race of the bio dad as he took off never to be heard from again except when they tracked him down to extract a few pennies of CS.

The twins are now grown, but grandmother and grandfather did at least 80% of their raising.

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Mon, 07/25/2016 - 1:45pm

I'm honestly surprised she hasn't gotten knocked up. I think she likes being daaaaadddy's little girl too much. And she has seen how life has turned out for OSD and MSD after they had kids. Not good. I think DH would flip though! His precious baby is having sex. She has a long term BF, but I guess he always cheats on her.

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Submitted by hereiam on Mon, 07/25/2016 - 3:30pm

NO MORE CHILD SUPPORT AND BM!

It is such a wonderful feeling.

My SD25 still talks about BM (like how she just got married for the 6th time) but it affects us not.at.all. Her not being able to use CS or court to try to manipulate DH and get what she wants is very freeing.

Now she just manipulates SD herself.

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Tue, 07/26/2016 - 6:51am

Even though I am disengaged and we don't really see or hear about BM, it's just the thought of really having no ties together. Like yeah her and DH have kids together but that is it. Nothing else. DH doesn't "owe" her anything.