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The end of support payments

sickofbs8's picture

My husband may finally be at the end of the child support payments...if bio mom doesn't put up a fight. For the last 2 years he has been paying a pretty hefty sum. Does anyone have any funny stories about this time? Bio mom doesn't have very good habit and i suspect she wasn't really expecting it to come to an end.

still learning's picture

"She used to brag to the kids about how she was so "generous" but all she was doing was redistributing SO's money"

This a thousand times! The ss's come over and talk about how generous BM is for buying the grands this and that, taking them shopping, letting ss30 and his gf live w/her etc... I wonder how "generous" BM will be when alimony ends in a few years.

Rags's picture

Getting any money out of the SpermClan for their CO'd share of medical costs not covered by insuranced was like pulling teeth but when SS turned 18 they jumped right on ending CS. Just to keep their sphincters pulling a vacuum we kept sending them notification that they were required to continue CS until SS turned 22 as he was going to attend university... }:)

They freaked out about that and called him incessently begging him to not force them to continue paying CS while he attended college as that was taking food out of the mouths of his three younger also out of wedlock SpermIdiot spawned half sibs by two other baby mamas.

Ultimately he caved in to their guilt fest and did not nail their asses to the CS wall for another 4 years.

Had I been him... I would have. And I would have had a good time doing it. }:) Blum 3 Dirol

Aeron's picture

The CO was very clear about when support ended - high school graduation or 19th birthday, whichever came first. Graduation did at the ripe age of 17.5. However, BM had deluded herself into thinking because she had moved to one of the most backwards states, support would go until 21. DH petitioned the court for a formal termination of support order because of the high conflict.

BM "counter sued" for car insurance, all kinds of senior related expenses -prom, yearbook, cap and gown etc, and 85% of college tuition. None of which was mentioned in the original CO. Then she didn't show up to the first court date. Termination order was granted, her crap was thrown out. She filed again the day she got the decision in the mail claiming she was unavoidably prevented from attending the previous. We were surprised when judge agreed to hear it. DH freaked out. He got a letter in the mail that was copy of a letter by SD to her previous GAL asking about her options and claiming there is no way she can go to college without daddy paying for it. BTW we had not seen SD for over 3 years and she refused to give DH her new phone number and generally to return his calls.

So back to court. Where the judge very nicely called BM an idiot and very carefully spelled out that what she was asking for was Never Going to Happen. Because the state law of where they divorced ruled their CO and she couldn't overrule another states decisions. No tuition. No continued child support. None of the other ridiculous unnecessary extra expenses. BM totally flipped out and made a scene all the way out of the building. In front of SD. Our lawyer described it.

BM got married to #4 about two weeks later.

Aeron's picture

Certainly mustang. BM started the PAS the day SD was born. As she got bigger if SD made any motion or noise that she was happy to see DH when he got home, SD was punished. She has been told all her life that DH "owes" her and that stopping support is "stealing" from SD.

BM has some type of personality disorder - husband 3 emailed DH during their divorce about all the meds BM was supposed to be taking but wasn't. And yes, sadly, SD has been pretty well warped by her mother's views of and interactions with the world. They are both pathological liars and nothing is Ever their fault. I imagine the last 2 years have been quite a shock for SD and of course she generally still blames DH for the unhappiness in her world.

Aniki-Moderator's picture

One more year. BioHo will be in a world of hurt. Once PrincASS ages out, he's joining the military (please please please take him!!!). That will leave 'Ho at home with 2 kids and not one thin dime of CS because the fathers of the 2 youngest are deceased due to alcoholism (Spawn9) and unknown due to 'Ho ho'ing around with multiple men and has no clue who fathered him (PigPen13). If they are anything like their mother, Spawn will be soon (if she is not already) sexually active and give 'Ho another grandchild within the next 5-6 years. PigPen will probably drop out of school and find some woman with a diaper fetish who wants a boy who poops his pants.

'Ho likes to live large. When SD20 was 16, she (SD) was constantly raging at DH that he needed to give 'Ho mo money mo money mo money for clothes for SD because SD20 NEEDED $100+ jeans and $100+ shoes and 'Ho could not afford them. Strange how 'Ho could afford weekly mani/pedis and regular root touchups and hairstyles and lots and lots of 'Ho clothes while the skids wore Walmart fashions.

When SD20 found out (2 years ago) what DH was paying in CS, she stopped asking DH and starting TELLING 'Ho "I need money for this and you have it". Now that SD has to pay for her own clothes, she's suddenly in love with thrift stores.