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This isn't so much of a question about step kids, just a question about the way other females think. First let me tell a little story about my husbands friend. His friend was once married to the girl but they divorced over 7 or 8 years ago. Now the dude has a newer girl and they been together for atleast 5 years because I been with my husband a little longer before they started dating. They had a bumpy road of ons and offs. Well he decides to ask her to marry and she has accepted and moved in. She's been living with him along with her several kids for 6 months. She has changed curtains and rearranged living room. So let me get to the point. I had to house sit today and got bored so I picked up a photo album ( only album here in living room) it's a album of him and his first wife. I found that to be very very strange. Is it just me or is it weird for her to allow this and not put no rules since it's not just her but her kids as well becoming a family. I'm just curious. Thanks for feed back.

He also has a photo of him

He also has a photo of him and his ex on fridge and his new fiancé nor him has removed it yet.

If it doesn't bother her,

If it doesn't bother her, what's the big deal?

I'm thinking she's waiting on

I'm thinking she's waiting on after the wedding. It's got to bother her...I myself would have done threw them out.

I'm not a "picture on the

I'm not a "picture on the fridge" type of gal so I would take that down and put it in the album.

The photo album would not bother me at all unless he was looking at it and weeping over what was or was displaying it open on the coffee table.

SD once brought over a bunch of pictures of her mom and dad's wedding day and various events to show me, didn't bother me in the least. I looked at them all with her and felt absolutely nothing. They were just pictures of the past that had nothing to do with me but they did have something to do with my DH. He didn't care to look at them but I found them interesting.

You're right it's none of my

You're right it's none of my business and I do not intend on saying a word about it. Just curious so I turn you strangers. This is the same woman that's gave me her opinion on husbands ex step kid coming to my house.

He didn't have any kids. He

He didn't have any kids. He is fatherless. They had a dog together that they referred to 'their child' the dog passed away and his ex wife remarried and had a child with her new husband.

Wow. For a minute there, I

Wow. For a minute there, I thought you were talking about ME! So now exSO and BM were married for 10 years. Two kids. They were like 8 and 10 when they divorced. She moved out of their house together and into rich best friend's house. I know he said she took some stuff but it never looked like it to me. We were together.. gosh, five or six years. and He moved in with me at year two but I always felt like Mrs. DeWinter in Rebecca's home. Clothes still in the closet and drawers of hers. GoodHouse keeping magazines in a huge stack by her side of the bed. Pictures of them as a couple in frames. You could open a drawer and more pictures of them as a couple. The panty and fridge still has food from 2010. The kids are now 15 next month and 16 and there room is like frozen in time with Build A Bear and My Little Pony's and Little Pet Shops. There are barbies in the bathtub. Size 6 little girl clothes all hanging in the closet. The couch pillow says, "A fisherman lives here with the catch of his life." I waited for two years for him to do something and he never did. One day I opened a drawer and there were all these handmade coupons. Do you have a Kindergartener who will give you those coupons on Mother's Day for things like Breakfast in Bed and a hug? Well these were for anal sex and a get out of jail free card. Her handwritten diaries are all there on the desk. Pics of her mother and family still on the fridge with the magnets. Sometimes she would get mad at him and use her house key that he never got back from her and would break in and display their wedding photos all over the place. Like I said he moved in with me at year two and the house is still how I described it. But then he would go over and grab the crock pot because mine broke and the kids would report back to her, "YOUR CROCKPOT is at No WIRE's house. I saw a blanket from our house on one of the bed's at NOWIRE"s house. " and then she would call and bitch him out and he'd just remove the crock pot and blanket . Anything from that vacant unlived in house that ended up at mine, where he lived and where his children would join us every other weekend, was her children's precious childhood memories taken from them by my snot nosed little brats! If she got a sunburn and needed aloe vera gel out of the fridge from her old marital home, well she'd just use the key and go get it. Going scalloping with her new husband and needed the snorkel and mask from the garage, why she'd just use the key and go get it. I had a pitt bull for 16 years and we could not have his cats (their cats) at my house so they stayed at that house and we (me mostly) would make the 45 min drive several times a week to play with them and feed them until my dog passed and then they moved in with me. I still have one of those cats. But yep, go feed the cats and the glass dining room table would be gone cause she decided she wanted it. Needless to say, we didn't make it. I wanted him to take that crap down on his own. I never insisted. He never did.

I'm reading this outside so

I'm reading this outside so sun is a little bright. So is the stuff still there?

yes. We now a baby, one and

yes. We now a baby, one and a half. He now lives a good hour and a half from that home now. Still vacant. Now it needs a new roof. He wants to put it up for sale so he doesn't have to keep paying the $1000 a month mortgage payment so he's just now emptying it out and now funny enough, all those toys and books and little girl blankets can go to my house now for our daughter so I've been going over there to get them. He said stepdaughter 16 wants to go over there by herself with friends and spend the night . (ie. have drug induced sex parties in a vacant home and he said yes and Bm said no. He asked my opinion and I actually sided with BM and said, "Furthermore, do you really want her finding all those coupons from her mom for anal sex?" I have come across pornographic pictures and letters from those two more than one in just a drawer. and under the bed.

That is a little much.

Not all women are bothered by

Not all women are bothered by the same things. There's a guy here getting the business from many posters for the way he interacts with with exwife. The things he posted wouldn't bother me at all, but clearly others feel he has crossed the line.

I think it's kind of stupid to wait until you're married to voice your opinion/act on things that bother you.

I wouldn't have never thought

I wouldn't have never thought anything about it if it was a deceased spouse. It's a ex wife and the photos I. Album are Lovey dovey in love photos .. Just found it very strange.

This is such an individual

This is such an individual thing, but yes it would bother me. An entire album? Who needs an entire album of an ex? Pick one or two, store them out of an area where anyone can see them, including my parents and friends if they come over. Everyone has a past, I just dont see why a visual display in a gathering room is necessary.

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