I think you do what you feel comfortable doing.

My DH is a great SD to my DD so we get him and gift and she writes out a card for him. I used to get a collective gift from SS, 22 and SD, 19 a few years ago but stopped last Father's day since it wasn't appreciated.

I used to when the skids were younger. I stopped a couple of years ago. As teenagers they should be able to take it upon themselves to remember to do something for their Dad. They don't so it's their problem.

I usually do a little something for my SO. A card, maybe take him and SD to lunch. I don't really recall planning anything with SD6... in the past she's always had something that she made him in daycare/school. This year I'll probably do more for him than in the past. On the off chance she thinks to make him anything, BM and her wife will likely not let her give it to him. It will probably be given to one of them instead...In the past I did it more for "just in case". BM has always been high conflict, but since she's gotten so much worse, I'll put more effort in. Even if SD is poisoned and doesn't appreciate her dad, even if BM is a nutjob who doesn't appreciate the father of her child - I still do, even if we don't have a shared child yet.

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BM usually handles gifts from the SDs for DP on Father's Day, so they come prepared.
Last year, I took everyone out to a Father's Day brunch, but that's the extent of it.
I'll probably do the same this year as it was easy and no one has to cook/clean up.
I.E. me.

}:)

I always do something for DH even though we don't have kids together. I don't do it for skids, I do it for DH and he knows who is responsible for any effort that is put into that day.

I have always done something for my DH from ME, because he is a great dad to his daughter and I want him to be recognized as such.

If you want to do something for your SO on behalf of your SD or help her do something for him, that is up to you but it is not your "responsibility". If you want to do something for him from just you, that's okay.

Maybe you can have your SD help you cook breakfast for him or help her make him a card and then take him to dinner. Whatever you feel is right for your situation.

SD9 was 6 years old when DH and I met. We had been together about 9 months when Father's Day rolled around. BM had traditionally helped her to do gifts for him.. Usually homemade stuff. For Father's Day that first year I reached out to her so that we didn't duplicate efforts and we ended up working on a project together. Since then, though, I've handled all the gift giving opportunities, Sometimes SD paints something, sometimes we buy a gift. Last year she decorated giant letters that spelled out Daddy and I took pictures of her holding them and put them in a frame.

PS... BM isn't remarried or in a relationship so we always help SD make something for her for Christmas, birthday, Mother's Day.

I do something from me but not from the kids. We had no bios together up until this year. We are expecting this Summer.

But I wanted to say one of the nicest things that DH ever did for me was on our first mother's day together. We were broke. He worked as a cook in a nice restaurant and I was struggling on my own with my kids for the first time since my divorce. He had never even met my children nor I his at this point. We had only been dating 8 weeks or so when Mother's day came around.

Mother's day is traditionally the hardest day in his restaurant of the year. He worked long hours that day - like 14. At the end of the night as they were cleaning up, he went and picked out all of the flowers out of the vases that were at the table and brought them to me at midnight after his shift. He couldn't afford to do much more than that but it won me over. It was the sweetest thing anyone had ever done for me for Mother's Day.

So, yeah. For the right person, recognizing that will mean the world to them.

I agree you do what you feel comfortable with. DH and I do not have children together but he is an amazing Dad and I love seeing him celebrate his day. One year SS13 then 9 hit his first home run on fathers day and he was calling everyone and taking pictures with his #1 Dad blinky pin.

Before I came along BM didn't do anything for DH so the boys would make homemade cards. He has every single one.

After I was in the picture we make him breakfast, take him to the pull it yards (his favorite place) and not complain at all The past few years he has asked for a specific type of sneaker so we buy them. The first year I paid, 2nd year we split the cost and last year he got two pair - one from SS17 (who paid) and the other from SS13 that I paid for. They still make him the handmade cards. All he really ever wants is to spend the day with his boys.