Another email !!
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SD sent another email with a link to more pics of her son. I am out of town right now so DH not with me. I did not respond yet as it came in either early this morn or late last night.
Then 15 min ago ANOTHER email from SD.... Hey 20years, my dad wants you to print out the picture just sent. So she was talking to him obviously and now she is relaying messages to me from my Dh via email. WTF. I am getting really angry and stressed right now.
Don't do it, if she wants him
Don't do it, if she wants him to have a picture she needs to print it out and give it to him herself
^^^Me too! Like the
^^^Me too! Like the inappropriate clothing SD brings over that her mom buys for her. I have no idea where it is.....:)
Once it is in the trash can does anyone really know where it goes?
I am very busy working.
I am very busy working. neither of them work so they sit around on the phone barking orders to me. not even a please our would really appreciate it etc. just dad wants you too.......... blah blah . Sheesh. my heart is pounding right now.
Oh, it's pissed me off for
Oh, it's pissed me off for you!! My SD is guilty of the same thing, tell Dad this, show Dad that, like she can bark orders at me and I'll jump right up & do it. Where do these people get off and who do they think they are. Please don't do it, don't print it out for her. Send her instructions on how a printer works and tell her to do it her damn self.
IF DH wants me to do
IF DH wants me to do anything I would prefer he ask himself, not via SD. Although I bet she took out upon herself to place that request on his behalf. he wouldn't ask her to ask me something. More BS game playing.
Time to "change" your email
Time to "change" your email address and "conveniently" not give it to SD and perhaps DH...just friends and family.
Consider sending her a link
Consider sending her a link to Walgreens Photo. They can print it and send it to DH for pennies. It's a better quality photo than most home printers I think (I'm not up on technology). Let her know you'd prefer she'd speak to dad directly about things as you are busy or don't care to be a go between
^^^THIS!!!^^^
^^^THIS!!!^^^
Stop reading her texts and
Stop reading her texts and emails. You know they are not for you anyway. You're working and busy...stop opening her emails. Nothing she says or attaches to them is important enough to bother with at work.
As to the actual emails (at a later time, not during work) when you have the time, don't open them, just hit print. If you feel the actual email will likely upset/stress you, don't read it even after printing. When he see husband hand him the stupid emails.
In the event that the email you handed DH was a link to pics or along the like and your husband (who is computer useless) politely asks if you could go to site and print something out for him, consider the request. You don't have to of course. You could tell him 'h*ll no, she can print and send to you herself'.
Husband needs to understand you have no desire to communicate with his daughter. If you don't want to even print out and hand him an unread email, well, that's your right also. But you need to tell him this so he doesn't think it's ok for SD to keep sending him things this way. If you flat out refuse, upfront, to be the receiver of his personal emails from SD via your computer and computer knowledge, just tell him you will not do this. Then you can free totally free to delete anything else that ever crosses your computer from her.
I would not simply just delete without talking to him nor would I not talk to him and let him discover you're just deleting without informing. Yes, it's your computer and your personal email address (why does she have your email anyway?) but until you make it clear to DH to make her stop using you as middleman , DH and SD will continue to think it's ok. Once you tell him 'no', change your email and/or block her address so you don't receive any more.
Just my 2 cents on how I'd handle it. I would not take her texts at all (after again telling DH you will not) and block her number. He does not have or use a cellphone and texts are not as 'easy' to just print out and hand to him like an email would be.
They the two of them don't like you removing yourself (which is your right to do so) then I guess they will learn to old fashion phone each other and send letters.
Now relax. You're working. Nothing going on that needs your immediate attention. Deal with DH and the emails and how out intend from here on out to handle them can wait until later. I assume if there actually is a true emergency in-between time, they won't be bothering emailing and all will be fine until you're ready to go home and confront DH.
Ignore, ignore, ignore.
Ignore, ignore, ignore.
Ask yourself what positive
Ask yourself what positive things are you getting out of reading that tripe sd is sending you?!!
You must re-train yourself to ignore sd's emails, change your email address, block her, delete them. She is just trying to re-insert herself any way she can and she will USE anything she can to achieve this.
It will be difficult to ignore her, but you must resist the urge to look and have plenty of reasons ready should DH dare to bring this subject up.
You could go for the hard reason - she is your DD, not mine and I find anything relating to sd extremely stressful. So I CHOOSE not to involve myself in things she did not previously include me in.
JIMPO.
Yes.... what email ? will
Yes.... what email ? will be my answer. need to step back again from the games she is trying to play again. it's always something.
I have a response SD, Could
I have a response
SD,
Could you tell your dad that I don't have time to print them and if he wants them he'll have to do it himself.
Thanks!
Stepmom
From you last post I knew she
From you last post I knew she should have a next move. They always do. Power games. Wait until DH asks you about this and say "I do not take instructions from you via your daughter. If you would like me to do something ask me."
If you can then you need to remove yourself from this triangulation in case she hooks him in longer term. Some ideas.
Tell DH to do a basic IT course.
Encourage DH to communicate with his grandchildren direct rather than through the daughter if they are old enough?
Wish I could help more. I really feel for you. Calm down a bit first btw. Hugs.
So I am home now and DH did
So I am home now and DH did not ask me to print it. He asked to see it and said, should we print it out? I said no, as it is not that great a pic (whole team) can hardly even make out Grandson in the pic. Plus don't want to waste expensive ink on a pic that is not great.
He agreed once he saw the pic. No biggy to him. SD was trying to turn it into an issue as usual. I am glad I didn't fall for the bait and reply in any way to her.
Thanks everyone for helping me with this. I will NOT open future emails from her either especially at work. Just more crap to deal with when this happens. Slipped back a bit but I am ready again - disengage - ignore - serenity now.