Back to sqare one!
It has been a rough summer as I vacation property sold in the winter this year and SD, her hubby and 3 kids do not have a free vacation home close to us anymore.
She comes up (2 hours away) more this summer than when the cottage was available. She is playing the victim about poor her and kids have nowhere to stay now at the beach.
She lurks around our friends - probably hoping for an overnight invite. This hasn't happened yet.
So she drive up 2 hours to spend the day at our beach and then packs up and drives 2 hours home, almost every weekend now.
DH of course spends every waking moment with her at the beach with the gkids. He wishes she could stay with us.
He is begging me for forgive her and start being friendly again - code for let her stay with us.
I am not ready to remove my boundaries of staying away from her, and still have anxiety attacks when I hear she is up near my home. I moved to get away from her and it doesn't seem to be working.
2 days ago DH said he doesn't think he can stay married to someone who won't accept his family (SD). I said fine, but I think it is ludicrous to divorce because your wife doesn't get along with your 40 year old daughter!
I think this is the final straw. I can't take it anymore. I am not sleeping again, barely eating, stressed and just feel terrible in general. My health cannot take this emotional roller coaster anymore.
I want to sell the house and move on. DH is away camping with SD and family along with our BS for a couple of days but when he returns I will tell him his wish will come true - he doesn't have to stay married to someone who won't accept his princess.