spoil azz, damn if you do damn if ya dont
Ok. About to be SD is 14/ turning 15. She lived with her mother in another state and visited grandpa very often. She wanted to come where her father was to live and attend school. This is a bigger city and state compared to where she came from, a small city family around the corners and more trusted friends. I know danger and crimes don’t discriminate but she can act like a dumb blond who’s twirling her hair and chewing bubble gum, and not paying attention to her surroundings. With that being noted she complains that her dad won’t let her go too far and hang with friends. She does go to the ball games and such, but with her lack of being responsible in a bigger place he just don’t feel safe letting her just roam the mall or movies, and other place. Tried it once and the dumb blond syndrome occurred. Now that her father and I are taking steps to make things more permanent I help him out with her at times. For example I pick her up from school when he works late and he comes by to pick her up, he also likes to hang out when he comes and then she gets restless and ready to go home once him and I start talking he ignores her brat like behavior. When he decides to leave her at home and come visit her lip is stuck out and don’t want to be at home. Damn if ya do damn if ya don’t. This summer she is moving back with her mother in her home town, and I hate that I have this feeling of a kid on x-mas morning, or blasting the happy song (because I’m happy clap along if you feel like a room without a roof…) but on a serious note I do love and care for the child but this dumb, cluelessness, spoil-ish way of acting like she is about to die of boredom is very annoying and no I do not have children. Is this typical teenage girl behavior, or did momma and grand pa spoil the crap out of her and now that she’s with dad and things are different she’s acting out? Just a quick history of how spoil…. Mother lets her go just about everywhere whenever and gramps would bring take out to school when she asked and take her wherever she please for the most part. I’m trying to bare it till she leaves in the summer but I hate I’m secretly counting down.