Oh...DH gave her the money for all of her stuff. I before he got it for her, I told him to be sure to remind her of such as these next time she gives him attitude about doing anything.

I was so pissed, I took a break from my work, and went and unloaded the dishwasher myself. DH asked me what I was doing, and I made sure as hell to complain at a volume loud enough so that "her highness" could hear me in her room. "It seriously takes 5 frackin' minutes to unload a dishwasher! But, noooooooooo, SHE just drops her plate in the sink and takes off to her bedroom like she always does! Yet, every time she wants money or something, we are supposed to just hand it over! No, we don't work our asses off or anything. I just love how SHE doesn't think she has to do her share of anything around here!" Now, one would think that this would have caused WWIII with DH, but I think he is actually getting what I've been saying this whole time. He simply said, "Maybe she didn't understand that 'you could' meant that 'you need to'?" I told him, "You know good and well that is BS! I know if my mom said 'you could' it really meant 'you will'. And you can't tell me that it was different with your mom!" He did admit that if his mom said "you could" it DID mean "you will" and if he didn't do it, he got in trouble! He helped me put the silverware away, and then went and had a talk with her.

DH came into my office later and said that SheSloth apologized for not emptying the dishwasher and putting her plate in. Yeah, right. Empty apology, I'm sure. It is so easy for these kids to just say "I'm sorry" to try to get out of crap, when they don't really mean it. Sorry means not doing it again, but she repeats the same behavior over, and over, and over!

"After your DH starts replacing dishes maybe he'll take a hint."

He does her dishes for her if she doesn't do them. That is part of the problem. The other day she was complaining that there weren't any more small plates to heat up something, because she used all of those instead of the plastic plates for her sandwiches (there are only 5 left as it is, because 3 were broken by none other than SheSloth over the years). DH told her, "There are other small plates." I quickly said, "Um, no there are not! Those dishes are not coming down off of that top shelf until there are NO kids left in this house!" There are dishes on the top shelf that I bought a couple of years ago to be replacements to the current incomplete set. I knew they would go unused for a few years, but I really liked them, and you know how it is...if I waited until there were no more kids in the house, they wouldn't be available any longer.

SheSloth even has a separate drawer of silverware she has to use. It is the incomplete sets of years past just tossed in a drawer. Again, something that she had a hand in, as over the years I've caught her throwing away silverware when throwing away food from her plate. For every piece I retrieved, I swear I probably missed two. There are literally remnants of 3 different sets of silverware in that drawer! She is forbidden to use the silverware that DH and I use, and I make sure to count each set whenever the dishwasher gets unloaded. I know, a bit much maybe, but I'm tired of replacing kitchen stuff because it gets throw away.

"Wtf is he so afraid of ???"

This is simple...SheSloth wanting to move back to BM's! In his mind, BM had her for 13 years, and now it is his turn! Problem, BM had her for 13 years! Before SheSloth was forced to move in with us because of the trouble she was getting into, she would complain to DH that she felt like a maid at BM's house. Yeah, she felt like a maid because she had to do dishes and sweep the kitchen every day! I WISH those were my only chores growing up!! I had to help with dinner, clear the dinner table and put away left overs, do the dishes, prep the coffee pot so that it would start at 5:00 a.m. and my parents could wake up to done coffee (and this was a big one...I would get killed if this weren't done), clean the counters, sweep and mop the kitchen, take out the trash, feed the dog, vacuum the house, and dust at least once a month! For all of this, I got a whopping $20/month! If I missed anything or did it half-assed, a buck was deducted until there was no allowance to give!

On top of this, I was expected to do my laundry, keep my room clean, and keep clean the bathroom I used...typical "clean up after yourself" stuff.

But not kids these days! OMG...an entitlement generation is being raised! Not all, but there are way too many parents who just hand stuff over to their kids and don't require anything from the kid! "I want them to have better than I did!" Then, teach them how to work for keep! Otherwise, they will never excel at their jobs, because they will think the world is supposed to be handed to them on a silver platter! I have what I have because I understand the value of hard work! I want more money, I bust my ass to make my boss notice! I take care of my stuff because I appreciate the privilege to have it, because I worked my ass off for it! I'm afraid these kids will never get this!

Oh, I'm so afraid she won't launch! I have a feeling it will come down to me demanding she go live with her mother if she is just going to sit on her ass and not do anything! You stay here? You go to school and/or get a job! Both of my bios are out there in the world...yeah, I'm still paying for BS19, but that is so he can get his education and make something of his life! But he is out there! He is doing the work, taking responsibility for himself, etc. BD23 works two jobs just so she doesn't have to have a roommate...she likes being on her own. She starts school herself here soon, now that she has finally pin-pointed what she wants to do.

Well, she is seriously asking for "Queen B***H" to make an appearance!

When I went back into my office, she was still by the open dishwasher. I thought maybe...just maybe! Then, I heard her go to her room! That is when I about lost it!